I'm thinking of calling her...

[ematsuda]

My ONE-itis thread got messed up.

Here's an update: She was getting out of control by being distant but did nothing wrong. I disrespected her back by not showing up when I was supposed to - wrong.

Should I call and apologize? I wouldn't ask her to forgive me or call or anything of that sort. I want to because I didn't sound sincere that last time - I kind of laughed when I did it. Would this be a form of begging?

The hard part is that eventually I'll have to see her again because she works at a place that my friends and I frequent. I don't want to be uncomfortable. What can I do to ease the discomfort?

 

[needsomehelp]

i dont suggest you do that.


surprise her. this is way too predictable dude

 

[Nooby Doo]

A real man owns up to his mistakes. Call her and tell her you are sorry you stood her up the other night and you want to make it up to her. Tell you would like her to join you on a special evening you have planned just for her. If she wants to bail, its all good...but it would be a shame to pass up on such a good time. Tell her what you have planned (something cool I hope)

If she doesnt take you up on your offer, then be prepared to buy her a pony, a Ferrari and a 50-foot yacht.

Just kidding, remember not to spend a lot of money on your date.

Try it out, and if she is being a biatch about the whole thing, remember that wonderful four-letter word that will set you free...

N*E*X*T -->

 

[ematsuda]

Actually I did half-heartly apologize. She didn't buy it. She's a strong person. This whole thing is just blown out of proportion.

 

[HuuBinh]

if i were u, i wouldn't apologize for my actions. if you felt bad about what you did, you still don't have to say sorry, you could just tell her that you'll make it up to her by scheduling another date. apologizing imo, shifts the balance of power to her.

 

[ematsuda]

if i were u, i wouldn't apologize for my actions. if you felt bad about what you did, you still don't have to say sorry, you could just tell her that you'll make it up to her by scheduling another date. apologizing imo, shifts the balance of power to her.

So basically, wait it out? Eventually, I would see her - I'm not looking forward to that if we don't get things talked out. I think she'll ignore me.

Sheez, all this crap coming from a girl who told me "I don't let guys get to me". Yeah right.

 

[ematsuda]

been reading the bible. Here's the solution to my problem.

Powerful Male: Irrelevant. Past is past; I can't change it. How will this thought help my future? My plan is to meet women not dwell on them.

These guys displayed what appeared to be extreme qualities of confidence, challenge and control. What gave them these ******d qualities was a severe somewhat detached outlook on things. A type of detachment that did not care about things in general. Here was your super hunter, a dangerous individual: cool, calculating, infinitely patient and not shaken by anything. Here was the mind of a true killer. Here were the outer manifestations of the master DJ mindset.

 

[DreamerZZ35]

Originally posted by HuuBinh
if i were u, i wouldn't apologize for my actions. if you felt bad about what you did, you still don't have to say sorry, you could just tell her that you'll make it up to her by scheduling another date. apologizing imo, shifts the balance of power to her.

What kind of hooy crap is that? Apologizing shifts the balance of power? What are you some kind of childish D*ckhead? You have some growing up to do! Being a REAL MAN is owning up to your mistakes. Saying I'm sorry when You have offended someone or hurt someone with yiour mouth or your actions unintentionally shows STRENGTH OF CHARECTER. When you cant admit your mistakes you HAVE NO POWER.

Some of you guys are totally lost. You mistake being a challenge to equate with being a total a-hole jerk, punk. You should be treating people the way YOU want them to treat you. Your life view should be.... one that says
I demand excellence from myself in every area of my life. That means that I treat OTHERS with respect with regards to there TIME, there PROPERTY and THERE PERSONHOOD. If you are missing that point you are missing THE WHOLE BALL OF WAX

 

[DreamerZZ35]

Originally posted by HuuBinh
if i were u, i wouldn't apologize for my actions. if you felt bad about what you did, you still don't have to say sorry, you could just tell her that you'll make it up to her by scheduling another date. apologizing imo, shifts the balance of power to her.

On a further note... if you did that as my employee, Id fire you on the spot

 

[HuuBinh]

i think u missed my point. for every action, theres a consequence, all im saying to the original poster is that, if you decide to do certain thing, in this case he intentionally flaked out on the girl, he said...

I disrespected her back by not showing up when I was supposed to - wrong.

this was what he wanted to do, then why apologize? If i want to take certain actions, whatever the consequences may be, i'll deal with it, but im not going to apologize for what i did b/c to me, that was the right action. If i apologize for an action that i feel is right, then it shows that im a weak person.

 

[Lola]

um if some dude stood me up and didnt apologise but asked me out again anyway, Id tell him where to go. Its only right that you should apologise for a mistake you made that probably hurt her and most likely seriously pissed her off right? Youd apologise to a friend if you stood them up, am I correct? Well why the hell would you treat this woman who is a prospective girlfriend, disrespectfully??

Call her and apologise and tell her you want to make it up to her.