"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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I'm taking a year out

Jerry Maguire

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I'm taking a year out to work and getting rid of the internet in an attempt to regain a social life (I have basically no friends now). I've been feeling depressed so I'm going to use this time to find myself, find what I want from life and learn to respect myself.
I've been thinking about improving my physique, getting some NLP, learning how to dance and maybe speak a bit more clearly.
I'm going to try and experiment with some girls (find out what I want from them) and try and make some new friends.

Whether it's to wish me well or give me a tip or two/some insight, please respond to this thread.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Lomi

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well good luck man, its a ballsy thing to do when you are an internet addict, i would go one step further and stick your computer in your closet as well unless its required to do your job.
 

flyinshark

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Good luck and i hope you attain your goals! My tip is, don't log on sosuave from work, even if work is boring.
 

Jariel

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I completely support you setting out to improve yourself as this is what will get you where you want to be and it's a damn enjoyable and fulfilling process too. Nothing beats the feeling after a productive day of working out, reading and learning something new.

I also think you are focusing on some really useful areas too where you can use women as a form of motivation.

Go for it and good luck!!!
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Kitsune

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Originally posted by Life-Trainee
Wouldn't having internet while having a social life be a greater and better challenge?
One thing at a time, you need to get rid of the internet first, then learn to work it back into your daily routine. I got rid of my mobile phone for a complete week (just to see what it's like) and it felt really good, now I learn not to rely on it so much, and the fact that you don't need to carry it with you all the time.
 

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wow

well good luck man.:) I hope you find whatever you need in life.
 

izza

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Nice

Good for you, bro. You will be a completely different person after this time off.

Best of luck finding your "calling," your work in life that gives the best of you to the world.
Best of luck finding friends who support you.
Best of luck dating around, and eventually finding a girl who brings out your inner joy.

Most importantly, good luck finding yourself.

--Izza
 

skeeloo

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yeah im with jerry maguire on this, i ll take some time off too maybe 3months . ill only logg on for important stuff . the internet can be an addiction and im afraid im getting addicted to it. its caused me some health problems.


goodluck im with you.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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