"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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I'm taking a year out

Jerry Maguire

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I'm taking a year out to work and getting rid of the internet in an attempt to regain a social life (I have basically no friends now). I've been feeling depressed so I'm going to use this time to find myself, find what I want from life and learn to respect myself.
I've been thinking about improving my physique, getting some NLP, learning how to dance and maybe speak a bit more clearly.
I'm going to try and experiment with some girls (find out what I want from them) and try and make some new friends.

Whether it's to wish me well or give me a tip or two/some insight, please respond to this thread.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Lomi

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well good luck man, its a ballsy thing to do when you are an internet addict, i would go one step further and stick your computer in your closet as well unless its required to do your job.
 

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Good luck and i hope you attain your goals! My tip is, don't log on sosuave from work, even if work is boring.
 

Jariel

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I completely support you setting out to improve yourself as this is what will get you where you want to be and it's a damn enjoyable and fulfilling process too. Nothing beats the feeling after a productive day of working out, reading and learning something new.

I also think you are focusing on some really useful areas too where you can use women as a form of motivation.

Go for it and good luck!!!
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Kitsune

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Originally posted by Life-Trainee
Wouldn't having internet while having a social life be a greater and better challenge?
One thing at a time, you need to get rid of the internet first, then learn to work it back into your daily routine. I got rid of my mobile phone for a complete week (just to see what it's like) and it felt really good, now I learn not to rely on it so much, and the fact that you don't need to carry it with you all the time.
 

avrilishot

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wow

well good luck man.:) I hope you find whatever you need in life.
 

izza

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Good for you, bro. You will be a completely different person after this time off.

Best of luck finding your "calling," your work in life that gives the best of you to the world.
Best of luck finding friends who support you.
Best of luck dating around, and eventually finding a girl who brings out your inner joy.

Most importantly, good luck finding yourself.

--Izza
 

skeeloo

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yeah im with jerry maguire on this, i ll take some time off too maybe 3months . ill only logg on for important stuff . the internet can be an addiction and im afraid im getting addicted to it. its caused me some health problems.


goodluck im with you.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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