"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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I'm stuck in a sh!thole, need advice reframing.

Konada

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Hello guys it's been a long time since I last came here. I doubt many of you know but I was enlisted into a conscript army roughly close to a year ago.

As of now, my life is complete sh!t and I find myself hating every single hour of it.

I have been put into a hostile working environment everyday for 12 hours, with no regular working hours. Ranging from anything at 3am to 6pm on weekdays. Even then, my weekends are considered a previlege than entitlement, being called back on weekends have become a norm.

I mean I really feel like complete shvt right now. I'm stuck in some airbase which I don't particularly enjoy my job. I've lost 16lbs of muscle due to absolutely no time for working out (I'm already very light do you can picture a 120lbs male losing 16lbs.)

I've signed up for a business club to get myself ahead before I go to university but this conscript army shvt has really been screwing with my progress. I feel that I'm getting nowhere ahead in life these 2 years. It's something I can't change but its certainly something I want to try to alleviate all this frustration building inside me.

Honestly, I feel like I'm stuck in the rat race of life, powerless to take charge. What can I do to regain my grasp over my own living these 2 years?
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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I remember you. What country are you serving?

You have only a little more than a year to go. Resolve to leverage it, to ruthlessely TAKE from it. Become so ruthless with taking that you start to feel that a year is nowhere near enough time.

Reframe yourself to value every task, every hardship as money in your bank of character building. Tell yourself every waking hour that you are a man of strength and resilience, and that this short stint in the army is going to catupult you to great things in life. It's going to be your launching pad. It's changing you, making you stronger every day. Detach from the immediate discomfort and consider this discomfort as equivalent to the pain of a muscle being pushed to its limits in order to enjoy increased strength tomorrow.

Will you allow the weight of this temporary discomfort squash you or will you climb on top of it and use it as a force to push off against? Keep looking for the value in your circumstances. What are the positives? WHat can you turn around from a negative into a positive?

If you are cleaning toilets, be the best toilet cleaner who ever lived. Money in your internal bank. If you are working 12 hours every day, work for 12 hours and one minute every day. Demonstrate to yourself that you can choose mastery over your circumstances and your skills.

It's all about reframing what things mean to you. USE this experience and ruthelessly TAKE from it. This circumstance demands much from you. Well, then you demand from it. Demand so much that you feel privileged to have the opportunity to plunder the army for the benefit of the strengthening of your character.

In about a year you will emerge a much stronger individual with the innate knowledge that you you can handle anything.

Picture a lion staring fiercely into a camera covered in blood after ruthlessly taking what it wanted and eating it. In fact, find a picture like that on the web and print it out for yourself. Don't find a clean one - find a bloody one who just kicked his environment's ass. Are you the lion who lives in the hot, uncomfortable plains taking what he desires, or are you the gazelle who flitters about with indecision, waiting to be consumed by his environment?

My bet is that you're the lion.

Take.
 

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AS- I'm a tiger- but now I want to be a lion. Dead srs!:D
 

Alvafe

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well since its conscripted you can't do much if not endure, but you have 2 choices here, do the bare minimum enough to keep the sarges out of your back but not enough for then push too much things on you, or you do everything and with any chance to get a promotion or something who make you a little better in rank then the others soldiers so you can take a little more easy.

also strange you losing weight normally they alwyas make the drills almost 3 times a week
 

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if you are able to get decent food, you can always do calethenics. One of the US's pow's somehoe lucked out in NAM and had food enough in prison that he was able to drive himself to be able until to walk on his hands, and do handstand pushups. I once saw a Tv show where a man born without forearms had taught himself to open a wallet with his foot/toes, take out and put away money, while on crutches.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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I remember you. What country are you serving?

You have only a little more than a year to go. Resolve to leverage it, to ruthlessely TAKE from it. Become so ruthless with taking that you start to feel that a year is nowhere near enough time.

Reframe yourself to value every task, every hardship as money in your bank of character building. Tell yourself every waking hour that you are a man of strength and resilience, and that this short stint in the army is going to catupult you to great things in life. It's going to be your launching pad. It's changing you, making you stronger every day. Detach from the immediate discomfort and consider this discomfort as equivalent to the pain of a muscle being pushed to its limits in order to enjoy increased strength tomorrow.

Will you allow the weight of this temporary discomfort squash you or will you climb on top of it and use it as a force to push off against? Keep looking for the value in your circumstances. What are the positives? WHat can you turn around from a negative into a positive?

If you are cleaning toilets, be the best toilet cleaner who ever lived. Money in your internal bank. If you are working 12 hours every day, work for 12 hours and one minute every day. Demonstrate to yourself that you can choose mastery over your circumstances and your skills.

It's all about reframing what things mean to you. USE this experience and ruthelessly TAKE from it. This circumstance demands much from you. Well, then you demand from it. Demand so much that you feel privileged to have the opportunity to plunder the army for the benefit of the strengthening of your character.

In about a year you will emerge a much stronger individual with the innate knowledge that you you can handle anything.

Picture a lion staring fiercely into a camera covered in blood after ruthlessly taking what it wanted and eating it. In fact, find a picture like that on the web and print it out for yourself. Don't find a clean one - find a bloody one who just kicked his environment's ass. Are you the lion who lives in the hot, uncomfortable plains taking what he desires, or are you the gazelle who flitters about with indecision, waiting to be consumed by his environment?

My bet is that you're the lion.

Take.

Thanks for that, AS.
 

PapiChulo

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Should have gone to school, now you are royally f$&cked. Is there anyway you could be considered medically unfit for service or those guys don't care how much underweight you are?
 
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