I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Yeah, most people are "full of themselves", if you stop you're probably going to be a very lonely person in the end.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Not really. Most people reach out to me, but I usually respond accordingly and also sometimes initiate depending on what the conversation is about.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
They certainly would. The amount of young women today who are completely shocked when they are approached blows my mind. Went up to a pretty girl over the summer chatted her up for maybe a minute and asked for her number. She later told me she had never been approached outright and she was hot 24 year old. I've seen the same sentiment from other young women saying approaching is 'wrong' and hitting on them is as well. But it's ok to swipe on them on an app or slide into their dm's like a beta boy.
I don't consider myself MGTOW, but I do watch their videos now and then (and read some of their material). The thing I don't like about it I think some of the negativity has rubbed off on me. I've always enjoyed looking at the pretty girls when I'm out and doing some light flirting or talking to people when I'm out. And I notice that I find myself intentionally not looking at or talking to women when I'm out, because somewhere in the back of my mind I get this MGTOW message playing about how women don't deserve free attention and all that. I don't like the effect, honestly.
If you have a relationship then you can't be MGTOW. If you are in a relationship, then why would you want to look at or talk to other women with respect to your SO rather than worry if they are getting free attention or not?
You're right I'm not MGTOW, I said I seem to have been infected by watching some of their negative material. Even a lot of the regular Red Pill stuff on this forum tells you not to look at women when you are out. I don't really want to feed into girls getting free attention because the entitlement attitude among young women especially, seems to be really bad, and I don't want to contribute to it.
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
If a hb 8+ Gen-Z lady threw herself at you or came on to you, then how would you handle that?
Unrelated to thread topic, but I stumbled upon incel and blackpill forums as teen (before they had those terms). Those views and rhetoric deeply affected me as a young impressionable person. Completely poisoned my world view and created some awful insecurities in me. It took a long time to get unplugged from that negative world and it really messed up my later teens and view on life and women.
Lol, that's hilarious. What would she want with an old goat like me? I'd probably think she was mental, or trying to set me up for a robbery.
I think a lot of pickup material can have that effect if you're not careful. There's a lot of crossover between all the different pills.
I am in a similar situation. Got a real solid homeboy from the neighborhood. We grew up together and literally shed blood.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
