dreamx said:
Hey guys if you read my last post I was thinking of killing myself,but trust me im not going to do that.But Im still kinda of depressed and people in school just won't stop teasing call me names(dork,geek,nerd,loser).Even with my new clothes,shoes and style people just have no respect.And these also happens alot when its just me and a girl two of us alone talking everything will be fine.But when the girl is in public with her friends or just other people she will ignore me or act like I don't exist and sometimes she will even insult me call me names like loser,nerd,etc.Im tired of that I know most girls dont want to be seen with me,but how can I change my appearence so girls would want to be seen with me.And friday theres another huge party almost everyone in school is invited expect for me and my dorky friends.The girl who is having the party is pretty popular and hot, but guess what she isn't invited me.This happens everytime nobody invites me to parties so how can I stop being a pathetic loser,should I stop worry so much?I once again need your guys help i'm stuck in big situation.
Make a witty comeback. I used to be in your position--unliked, not cool, lacked respect. The guys would talk to me because I could be easily swayed by their opinion, due to my burning desire to fit in.
STOP CARING! Popularity is not purchased; it is acquired, over time. So stop whining and take action at school. It might take a month, or a few months...maybe even a week, if you're good enough. When people push you around, call you names...all you have to do is twist it around. Use your brain. The crowd will root for you as you verbally kick his ass--and I am not suggesting cursing or dissing. Just skillfully manipulating the words around.
E.x.: they call you a geek or nerd-- you can say: Excuse me? Who do you think you'll end up working for? etc.
I say to girls all the time that I'm the coolest nerd they will ever meet. I pride myself in my academic work, and skills. Girls and popularity are secondary. I know this, and they know this. I am respected for it. In fact, girls are lining up for me because I do not give a **** about them. Wear the clothes you love, do your hair the way you like it... be yourself. Make your own priorities, and above all do NOT let anyone get in your way.
Someone insults you? PUT them in their place. I would not advice vomiting curses such as fcuk you, etc. Those words are for unintelligent people. You are smart, right? So twist their words around. Be the better man, hurt them while looking like the better man.
People will talk. Word will spread. Soon you will enter a social class of your own, or join them. But, regardless, you'll be invited to go to those parties. Not by the guys, most likely, but by the girls.
If you ever need someone to talk to, PM me. I think this forum is beginning to lose tolerance for your situation. So, I would advice to stick to the PMs.
Let this go to show that whining is not the solution to problems. It's action that changes situations, and solves problems.
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Later dude, and good luck.