Hey guys if you read my last post I was thinking of killing myself,but trust me im not going to do that.But Im still kinda of depressed and people in school just won't stop teasing call me names(dork,geek,nerd,loser).Even with my new clothes,shoes and style people just have no respect.And these also happens alot when its just me and a girl two of us alone talking everything will be fine.But when the girl is in public with her friends or just other people she will ignore me or act like I don't exist and sometimes she will even insult me call me names like loser,nerd,etc.Im tired of that I know most girls dont want to be seen with me,but how can I change my appearence so girls would want to be seen with me.And friday theres another huge party almost everyone in school is invited expect for me and my dorky friends.The girl who is having the party is pretty popular and hot, but guess what she isn't invited me.This happens everytime nobody invites me to parties so how can I stop being a pathetic loser,should I stop worry so much?I once again need your guys help i'm stuck in big situation.
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Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
Im still a pathetic depressed loser!!!
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"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Make a witty comeback. I used to be in your position--unliked, not cool, lacked respect. The guys would talk to me because I could be easily swayed by their opinion, due to my burning desire to fit in.dreamx said:
STOP CARING! Popularity is not purchased; it is acquired, over time. So stop whining and take action at school. It might take a month, or a few months...maybe even a week, if you're good enough. When people push you around, call you names...all you have to do is twist it around. Use your brain. The crowd will root for you as you verbally kick his ass--and I am not suggesting cursing or dissing. Just skillfully manipulating the words around.
E.x.: they call you a geek or nerd-- you can say: Excuse me? Who do you think you'll end up working for? etc.
I say to girls all the time that I'm the coolest nerd they will ever meet. I pride myself in my academic work, and skills. Girls and popularity are secondary. I know this, and they know this. I am respected for it. In fact, girls are lining up for me because I do not give a **** about them. Wear the clothes you love, do your hair the way you like it... be yourself. Make your own priorities, and above all do NOT let anyone get in your way.
Someone insults you? PUT them in their place. I would not advice vomiting curses such as fcuk you, etc. Those words are for unintelligent people. You are smart, right? So twist their words around. Be the better man, hurt them while looking like the better man.
People will talk. Word will spread. Soon you will enter a social class of your own, or join them. But, regardless, you'll be invited to go to those parties. Not by the guys, most likely, but by the girls.
If you ever need someone to talk to, PM me. I think this forum is beginning to lose tolerance for your situation. So, I would advice to stick to the PMs.
Let this go to show that whining is not the solution to problems. It's action that changes situations, and solves problems.
::Include your AIM Screen-Name in the PM, if applicable.
Later dude, and good luck.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
flippinfreak
Master Don Juan
You read the information, and you sit there, and read it some more, and than again...dreamx said:
It's not going to magically carry you away and make you do the things it says to do.
The more excuses the make, the better the excuses will be.
yeah but as what I said when its me and a girl alone just two of us talking everything will be perfect.But in public or front of other people she will ignore me,insult me or act like I don't exist.I know no girl wants to be seen with me,how do I change that?
flippinfreak
Master Don Juan
stop making excuses and follow the advice people have given you...
Go to the damned gym, MAKE new friends, GET INVOLVED. When people "ignore me,insult me or act like I don't exist" use C+F. Start being charming, invite people to do things. Go places where people are having fun. Eat healthy. Get a new job. GO to study groups in high school/college. If your not in school, enroll. No money? Get a job.
NOTHING is going to happen right away...
From what you have been saying in your last 150 posts about how pathetic you are, you haven't changed one bit. You just read, and that's it...
CHANGE THAT!
Go to the damned gym, MAKE new friends, GET INVOLVED. When people "ignore me,insult me or act like I don't exist" use C+F. Start being charming, invite people to do things. Go places where people are having fun. Eat healthy. Get a new job. GO to study groups in high school/college. If your not in school, enroll. No money? Get a job.
NOTHING is going to happen right away...
From what you have been saying in your last 150 posts about how pathetic you are, you haven't changed one bit. You just read, and that's it...
CHANGE THAT!
First of all I signed for the gym last week and im kinda intimiated because the guys there no offense are bigger then me and have nice body.And Im very educated inmatter of fact I go to the after school math/science program im top in my class,but how can I get a job if nobody will like there as well just like highschool?flippinfreak said:
flippinfreak
Master Don Juan
Excuses excuses excuses
Make an excuse to get a job there
NOW!!!
Tell ME, why you could get a job, tell me WHY going to the gym is good for you, tell me WHY you should start making new friends!
I'm going to report you as a troll if you keep lying to us and making these whack excuses all the time.
Make an excuse to get a job there
NOW!!!
Tell ME, why you could get a job, tell me WHY going to the gym is good for you, tell me WHY you should start making new friends!
I'm going to report you as a troll if you keep lying to us and making these whack excuses all the time.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
First of all these are not excuses you dumb**** im complaining alot about my life because im in a depressed mood,im here to get advice not to read your insults.And im not lying about these **** thats what you need to get through your head read my posts carefully before you come to judge ments!
flippinfreak
Master Don Juan
They are not insults... seriously
The things you keep saying ARE excuses... I don't know how many years it will take you to notice that.
Guys in the gym who are bigger than you may intimidate you, but being intimidated for no reason is an excuse... tell me under what cicumstances you wouldn't be intimidated.
You do know that black people and white people can be friends, and don't have to be intimidated by skin color. So being of different sizes doesn't have to initmidate you.
You immediately ask how you can get a job if nobody is going to like you? Explain to me how that is not an excuse? Getiing a job means hard work, as does everything else in life...
If I start ringing things off that you should be doing, are you going to continue to come up with reasons why they would not work for you?
pre emptive failure, self limiting beliefs, low self esteem.... Yeah, you've got those... you said it already. What you have to do is be willing to change them...
The things you keep saying ARE excuses... I don't know how many years it will take you to notice that.
Guys in the gym who are bigger than you may intimidate you, but being intimidated for no reason is an excuse... tell me under what cicumstances you wouldn't be intimidated.
You do know that black people and white people can be friends, and don't have to be intimidated by skin color. So being of different sizes doesn't have to initmidate you.
You immediately ask how you can get a job if nobody is going to like you? Explain to me how that is not an excuse? Getiing a job means hard work, as does everything else in life...
If I start ringing things off that you should be doing, are you going to continue to come up with reasons why they would not work for you?
pre emptive failure, self limiting beliefs, low self esteem.... Yeah, you've got those... you said it already. What you have to do is be willing to change them...
You must be retarted when I say nobody likes me thats not an excuses its a fact, I keep complaining because I tried everything nobody likes me even my own dad hates me.flippinfreak said:
Guys in the gym who are bigger than you may intimidate you, but being intimidated for no reason is an excuse... tell me under what cicumstances you wouldn't be intimidated[/QUOTE]
Once again its not an excuse i feel like bigger guys get girls checking them out,but no girl ever checks me out because im skinny
You do know that black people and white people can be friends, and don't have to be intimidated by skin color. So being of different sizes doesn't have to initmidate you.[/QUOTE]
No comment on these one!
You immediately ask how you can get a job if nobody is going to like you? Explain to me how that is not an excuse? Getiing a job means hard work, as does everything else in life...[/QUOTE]
Look if nobody likes me in highschool how will they like me in work?Answer that
If I start ringing things off that you should be doing, are you going to continue to come up with reasons why they would not work for you?[/QUOTE]
No im not going to give reasons why the would not work,but I will come up if i know that I tried it and it wouldn;t work.
pre emptive failure, self limiting beliefs, low self esteem.... Yeah, you've got those... you said it already. What you have to do is be willing to change them...[/QUOTE]
Yes I admit i have all those, but im willing to change them
flippinfreak
Master Don Juan
Go back and read over your old posts that comment on yourself http://www.sosuave.net/forum/search.php?searchid=41039dreamx said:
VERY few of them contain anything positive. They all confirm how bad your life is to yourself, and try to convince us of how bad your life is.
REad over some of the advice people gave you, and think of how wrong you were in not taking their advice, think of what it means to yourself when you look at their advice, and tell them it will never work?
I've asked you once or twice to write down when something WOULD work for you. You responded by calling me a retard, maybe that's an indication of how retarded I am for even trying to help you.
B-Lemond
Master Don Juan
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"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
flippinfreak
Master Don Juan
Impatience is a virtue, but only if used wisely. You say you are intelligent...
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
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