"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Im so screwed...

Punisha

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Hey guys i really need help on this one.Lets start with a little background:
theres this guy in my class...well hes a jerk.he is always messing up with everyone(except me and another guy)and sometimes he just does stupid sh!t(once he entered class with a condom on his head...). So a couple of days ago he was doing something wich made 2 girls cry and then he started bullying a guy who was passing by so i just came to him grabed his arm and told him to stop it or he could get some minor injuries.he gave me a nice ''fvck you retard''and i gave him a nice punch in the stomach.nothing serious ended up right there and he was a sweet puppy for some days.
All was good until today when like half my class went out and he was kinda drunk so he started harrassing a girl who was with us(touching her boobs and stuff like that)and i totally snaped.according to his mother wich called me about half an hour ago i broke his arm in 2 places and he twisted his right foot when i pushed him down the stairs :nervous:

How the hell am i suposed to do tomorrow?maybe ill have to pay him or something, my parent wont be very happy with it and i dont even wanna imagine how ppl will look at me in school...need serious help on this one :down:
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Don't be totally insensitive to it but if you think you were doing the right thing (which if he's bullying people you were) don't be worried about it. If he has a reputation the people at school should understand.. but if you're all nervous about it you won't come off too well.
 

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Tell his mother that it was a blessing: others would have KILLED him already. But maybe now he'll grow some brains in his head.
 

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DJVladdy said:
Tell his mother that it was a blessing: others would have KILLED him already. But maybe now he'll grow some brains in his head.
i surely hope he does...i totally avoid conflict at all times but sometimes i just get possessed or something.btw you were jkg about telling his mother that werent you?

To dav27: im very concerned about it so its hard not to be nervous.he has got a reputation among guys wich is....good.they like to have him around(cant blame school for putting all jerks together)and even some girls like having him around

Ty for replies.more would be good
 

ZenGodMod

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You did nothing wrong, other then pushing him down the stairs or whatever happened that got him tumbling.

Mistakes happen. He deserved to be pointed out as a jerk.

I think you mistake the idea that he is liked by some. Its called 'acceptance', most of the others didn't have the balls to do what you did. 'if you can't beat 'em, join 'em... In this case laugh with 'em'.

A guy like that isn't liked, his accepted. This is why jerks trive!

Good job!
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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I see nothing wrong with that. He was being a jackass and you let him know that his behavior was unacceptable. Maybe breaking his arm and twisting his ankle was a bit much, but I bet you he wont be a problem anymore. As for what to do. Walk into school tomorrow like nothing happened. If people mention it, just say he deserved it and leave it at that.
 

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That's f*cking awesome dude. I would look at you like a hero.
 

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Don't say anything to the mom at all. You do not owe her an explanation. More importantly, you do not want to say something that could possibly be used against you. Do not apologize or offer a sign of guilt.

You did a great job. If authorities or school admin gets involved, you acted in legitimate self defense and the defense of others, and you have people to back you up.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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DJVladdy

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Iqqi got a point, that would be a smart thing to say.

No, I wasn't joking - except i exagerated about the "killed" part - i would not say that to a mother about her child.

If that was me, and the mother called - i dont get it: how does she have your phone number, and WHY she called you? To tell you that he is hurt?

Id literally ask her why she is calling and not him? Does she expect pity and guilt? Id say: "please accept my sincerest condolences from the bottom of my heart". I mean you gotta feel sorry for that woman that her son turned out to be a piece of $hit.
 

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Punisha said:
Hey guys i really need help on this one.Lets start with a little background:
theres this guy in my class...well hes a jerk.he is always messing up with everyone(except me and another guy)and sometimes he just does stupid sh!t(once he entered class with a condom on his head...). So a couple of days ago he was doing something wich made 2 girls cry and then he started bullying a guy who was passing by so i just came to him grabed his arm and told him to stop it or he could get some minor injuries.he gave me a nice ''fvck you retard''and i gave him a nice punch in the stomach.nothing serious ended up right there and he was a sweet puppy for some days.
All was good until today when like half my class went out and he was kinda drunk so he started harrassing a girl who was with us(touching her boobs and stuff like that)and i totally snaped.according to his mother wich called me about half an hour ago i broke his arm in 2 places and he twisted his right foot when i pushed him down the stairs :nervous:

How the hell am i suposed to do tomorrow?maybe ill have to pay him or something, my parent wont be very happy with it and i dont even wanna imagine how ppl will look at me in school...need serious help on this one :down:
You my friend are not the COPS it aint your job to bully the bullies... You should have alerted the school authorities ... but now you will be facing assault charges which will cost you and your parents some good $$$$... OH and remember next time that most folks dont go quietly , they often seek revenge when you least expect it and that is what can get you killed really easily..
 
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Well today was a kinda nice day....only a couple of guys said something but it was joking with me.ty for the advice guys ill try not to snap out next time.:up:

to someone who asked: im a 16y old guy.u wanted to go out with me if i was a girl?:D

to someone who asked other thing: his mother got my number cause i gave it.i really hate hurting ppl so it was like i pushed him downstairs told my mates to call ambulance and to give my number to his mother just in case.sometimes im that stupid :crackup:

to mostly everyone:a hero?why?cause i kicked someones as$?i dont really feel like a hero cause i could have avoided it but i didnt

to DonGorgon: yeah u got a point but we werent at school when it happened.fortunatly ppl dont get killed where i leave and this guy,like someone said,is not someone that has friends who watch his back.he is accepted for making them laugh
 

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You stood up for something you believed. Now deal with the consequences like a man, you'll be fine.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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DonGorgon

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Punisha said:
to DonGorgon: yeah u got a point but we werent at school when it happened.fortunatly ppl dont get killed where i leave and this guy,like someone said,is not someone that has friends who watch his back.he is accepted for making them laugh
OK...
 

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Gordon, bro, no body will get killed for that. He won't even get jumped. The guy was a punk, no more.
 

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He's a punk. But he's a funny one. :D I hope that condom he put on his head was a "Magnum".
 

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Punisha said:
All was good until today when like half my class went out and he was kinda drunk so he started harrassing a girl who was with us(touching her boobs and stuff like that)and i totally snaped.according to his mother wich called me about half an hour ago i broke his arm in 2 places and he twisted his right foot when i pushed him down the stairs :nervous::
Touching her is not sexual harrassment, it's sexual battery. Much worse. You did the right thing by stepping in, as self-defense laws and/or good samaritan laws would be on your side here.

Nothing more should come out of this, he'd be stupid trying to justify his behavior in the first place...but, if anything does happen in the future, make note of any witnesses, and the girl too.
 
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