Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
she wasn't that receptive today at all. Last week we were making out til her question came up, and after that she wouldn't kiss me.Mike32ct said:
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
I guess you weren't aggressive enough, or maybe you should have lied and claimed to be with her to screw her... or... shes crazy.VastanVer2.0 said:
That explains it. She wanted to "forget" the ONS thing ever happened and start off new as bf/gf. This would mean having to "wait" anywhere from 3 dates to 6 weeks to properly f&ck as a couple. If you're just looking for a FB, she isn't it. Find some other girls.VastanVer2.0 said:
Well I wouldn't make her my gf unless I could trust her, and this episode tonight (among others) has demonstrated that I can't. Plus I haven't had a gf in a long time and I was liking how things were going between us, and she had to go and ****ing ruin it.Mike32ct said:
Agreed. I don't think she's relationship material either.VastanVer2.0 said:
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
she didn't think we were dating. She said multiple times that we're not dating. Yet she'd be calling me daily (before she lost her phone). She's a slut. She's probably ****ing that guy as I type this. And I couldn't pick up a girl if my life depended on it (which is why this is pissing me off).sodbuster said:
You got this girl once and f*cked her. You can do it again with another girl. Believe me, the ONLY thing that keeps me going in this game is the fact that I've gotten laid before. You gotta use the same mindset.VastanVer2.0 said: