gonnamakeachange
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Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Focus on figuring out those reasons and fix them. If you aren't getting chics, it's not likely that that universe is conspiring against you, it's that you aren't competent and creating attraction in a woman.gonnamakeachange said:Every girl in my life who I was ever remotely interested in never works out for a multitude of reasons.
What was she supposed to do? Say to the guy, "Oh sorry I can't give you my number, that other guy had already suggested we hang out sometime." First off, the guy didn't ask her hand in marriage, he simply asked for her number. That doesn't preclude you from also asking. They have no relationship, there's no reason she couldn't go on a date with him on Friday and go out with you on Saturday. So why the hell didn't you ask for her number at the end of the night like you planned to??Why am I pissed now?
I went out with some people at the company I work at. I'm pretty friendly with one girl. A couple of us were sitting at a table having drinks. I asked her what she does on the weekends and if she's doing anything this weekend. She responds back by saying her weekends are really boring and she doesn't do much. Then I said we should hang out on Saturday, which she responded favorably.
I was gonna wait till a bit later to exchange numbers instead of doing it at the table and everything. Anyway, the other guy at the table asks her the same question... like "so your weekends are boring, huh?". And then he asks for her number and she gives it to him!!!
WTF?
Forgetting about women won't make them come to you. Anymore than forgetting about money is going make a million dollars show up at your door unexpectedly. Like making money, getting women means building up a set of skills and putting in work to attain it. There are excellent materials available on this site to start you on that path. Read them.I'm so tired of women. It's draining the life out of me. I'm tired of jacking off every night which is why I'm trying to have a more active social life but I'm ****ing pissed! How can I forget about women and just enjoy life by myself when you see women and couples everywhere you go and you know that you're gonna masturbate that night instead of having real *****?
I'm so sick of hearing advice like "just forget about women, they will come".
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
It´s only an excuse man! There is no good excuse for this! You were fvckin´ scared asking her out at the table in front of the others, weren´t you? You have to face your fears! Next time you see a good opportunity to have some fun (like asking a girl out) which makes you scared, just do it. Go for it! Without thinking, without hesitation. Take it like an extreme sport!gonnamakeachange said:I was gonna wait till a bit later to exchange numbers instead of doing it at the table and everything.
Having an instable personaltity is bad. But only bad for him. Having an instable personaltity and fighting skills is dangerous for everybody around him. If he doesn´t know how to differenciate between good and bad trainers/styles and starts to train fight he will have high probably more serious problems than now.thegspwarrior97 said:You should train to fight (MMA).