gonnamakeachange
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"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
I'm so ****ing pissed. I'm gonna die alone.
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Its not the women.
Its YOU.
Stop being friendly with women. Learn your lesson. Next time do what the guy did. Ask for the number right away and don't ask "Lets hang out". There is no hanging out with a women you like. Stop trying to be friends with them.
1. Get your life in order. Pursue life, career that you want and will love to do for the rest of your life.
2. Pursue women that you want to get with. Don't hang out, don't become friends. If it doesn' work out with one, know there is another one right next to you.
Its YOU.
Stop being friendly with women. Learn your lesson. Next time do what the guy did. Ask for the number right away and don't ask "Lets hang out". There is no hanging out with a women you like. Stop trying to be friends with them.
1. Get your life in order. Pursue life, career that you want and will love to do for the rest of your life.
2. Pursue women that you want to get with. Don't hang out, don't become friends. If it doesn' work out with one, know there is another one right next to you.
Focus on figuring out those reasons and fix them. If you aren't getting chics, it's not likely that that universe is conspiring against you, it's that you aren't competent and creating attraction in a woman.gonnamakeachange said:Every girl in my life who I was ever remotely interested in never works out for a multitude of reasons.
What was she supposed to do? Say to the guy, "Oh sorry I can't give you my number, that other guy had already suggested we hang out sometime." First off, the guy didn't ask her hand in marriage, he simply asked for her number. That doesn't preclude you from also asking. They have no relationship, there's no reason she couldn't go on a date with him on Friday and go out with you on Saturday. So why the hell didn't you ask for her number at the end of the night like you planned to??Why am I pissed now?
I went out with some people at the company I work at. I'm pretty friendly with one girl. A couple of us were sitting at a table having drinks. I asked her what she does on the weekends and if she's doing anything this weekend. She responds back by saying her weekends are really boring and she doesn't do much. Then I said we should hang out on Saturday, which she responded favorably.
I was gonna wait till a bit later to exchange numbers instead of doing it at the table and everything. Anyway, the other guy at the table asks her the same question... like "so your weekends are boring, huh?". And then he asks for her number and she gives it to him!!!
WTF?
Forgetting about women won't make them come to you. Anymore than forgetting about money is going make a million dollars show up at your door unexpectedly. Like making money, getting women means building up a set of skills and putting in work to attain it. There are excellent materials available on this site to start you on that path. Read them.I'm so tired of women. It's draining the life out of me. I'm tired of jacking off every night which is why I'm trying to have a more active social life but I'm ****ing pissed! How can I forget about women and just enjoy life by myself when you see women and couples everywhere you go and you know that you're gonna masturbate that night instead of having real *****?
I'm so sick of hearing advice like "just forget about women, they will come".
Stop being a pvssy.
You were born alone and you will die alone. Nobody will go on the final journey but you. Accept that fact. YOU WILL DIE.
Now what do you want to accomplish before you die? That's what you need to get started working on. No pity parties for grown men. Make it happen or accept your fate. Those are your choices. Good luck.
You were born alone and you will die alone. Nobody will go on the final journey but you. Accept that fact. YOU WILL DIE.
Now what do you want to accomplish before you die? That's what you need to get started working on. No pity parties for grown men. Make it happen or accept your fate. Those are your choices. Good luck.
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
sodbuster
Master Don Juan
As you think,so shall you become. Keep thinking you suck with women, or learn,take the pain and get better[I took alot of pain in martial arts,but I'm better now].
Commandante
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It´s only an excuse man! There is no good excuse for this! You were fvckin´ scared asking her out at the table in front of the others, weren´t you? You have to face your fears! Next time you see a good opportunity to have some fun (like asking a girl out) which makes you scared, just do it. Go for it! Without thinking, without hesitation. Take it like an extreme sport!gonnamakeachange said:I was gonna wait till a bit later to exchange numbers instead of doing it at the table and everything.
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thegspwarrior97
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What are you more scared of? Asking a girls number or fighting a guy who can probably kick your ass? You should train to fight (MMA). It makes you tough. When you are not scared of a beatdown from other guys, you are really scared of nothing. Train MMA.
Commandante
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Having an instable personaltity is bad. But only bad for him. Having an instable personaltity and fighting skills is dangerous for everybody around him. If he doesn´t know how to differenciate between good and bad trainers/styles and starts to train fight he will have high probably more serious problems than now.thegspwarrior97 said:You should train to fight (MMA).
In my opinion MMA wouldn´t be good for him.