I'm so confused...

[Jon55]

I'm so confused.

I have this roommate. He's a bit younger than I am (couple of years)...he's a cool guy. We get along well together, but sometimes he can be pretty immature. It's kinda hard to explain...he's very...boyish. Has a lot of energy, carefree attitude on rejection, and is overall outgoing. He makes for a good wingman when meeting girls. And that's the thing, he can get any girl. I mean I have no idea how he does it. He can be pretty immature (like a 12 year old hyperactive kid) and yet somehow these girls seem to be interested. He meets a girl at a party, they chat, as we're leaving you get the impression she has no real interest, and then bam! 5 minutes later she starts texting him all night.


The irritating part is I used to be like this guy! I could get girls so easily, mainly because I was so confident in myself and was having fun. I just didn't know what failure was. Not until I started dating...only to discovered that I can get jealous at times, which lead to insecurity, but mainly clinginess.


After many relationships ruined due to my clinginess/non-DJism, I got a good taste of failure. Mind you this is all over the course of a couple years with various girls. My confidence since has been shot. Conversations are harder to keep flowing. What used to come naturally now is a bit of a struggle.


I'm just kind of using this post to get this off my chest and gather my thoughts; not trying to get answers out of you guys (but any are welcome).

 

[Mr. Wolf]

He speaks to women's emotions and you speak to their intellect. http://www.bristollair.com/outer-game/techniques/tactics/amog-tactics.html


Just reading your post made me vomit.. WTF? Are you kidding me? Are you that AFC! It sux dude, I hope you can get a drink and get that crap out of your system.


So, do you guys sleep in the same bed?

 

[Jon55]

He speaks to women's emotions and you speak to their intellect. http://www.bristollair.com/outer-game/techniques/tactics/amog-tactics.html


Just reading your post made me vomit.. WTF? Are you kidding me? Are you that AFC! It sux dude, I hope you can get a drink and get that crap out of your system.


So, do you guys sleep in the same bed?

Har har. (Hell no for the record)

And yes, I know I've got afc running through my veins. It was kind of dormant in me before I started dating and now it's consumed me. I've been working hard trying to develop myself out of it, make my own goals, etc., but still need a lot of work/help.

 

[Randallpink83]

thats cool man, at least you are identifying with the issue. And this is absolutely something you can change. This can be worked on for sure.... So I would suggest just making a goal to turn yourself around and work at it.... Get good with woman.


I think I went through the same thing.... I used to be really good with girls when I was a teenager, I was just very free, energetic, playful and creative, it just worked... But as I got older, more mature and intelligent I started losing that pizazz. But I'm starting to become that way again. Its fun. Thats all it really is, its like being allowed to still act free and wild... Although even better cause now your conscious of everything, more intelligent... You have the potential to be 10 times better than your roommate. But anything great must be worked on.

 

[joey2times]

I think jon has a "man crush"

 

[Jon55]

I think jon has a "man crush"

*shudders* No thank you.

And hey don't get me wrong. When he's chatting with these girls I don't go up and try to make myself look like an ******* like the guy in the article Mr. Wolf linked.

thats cool man, at least you are identifying with the issue. And this is absolutely something you can change. This can be worked on for sure.... So I would suggest just making a goal to turn yourself around and work at it.... Get good with woman.


I think I went through the same thing.... I used to be really good with girls when I was a teenager, I was just very free, energetic, playful and creative, it just worked... But as I got older, more mature and intelligent I started losing that pizazz. But I'm starting to become that way again. Its fun. Thats all it really is, its like being allowed to still act free and wild... Although even better cause now your conscious of everything, more intelligent... You have the potential to be 10 times better than your roommate. But anything great must be worked on.

Thanks guy. I try reading through and attempting a ton of posts/threads for every new thread I make. I couldn't have been able to realize it without coming across this forum.

 

[Mr. Wolf]

So you prefer when your boyfriend is done chatting up girls so you two can retire in your apartment and be alone, eh.. Do you guys use a condom?

 

[Jon55]

So you prefer when your boyfriend is done chatting up girls so you two can retire in your apartment and be alone, eh.. Do you guys use a condom?

wtf? I'd expect to hear something like that out of a middle schooler.

 

[Mr. Wolf]

Haha, you're so mature. Your girlfriend must really love you for that.

 

[Jon55]

Haha, you're so mature. Your girlfriend must really love you for that.

Are you trying your best to troll?

 

[Mr. Wolf]

Nah dude.. Come on. That room mate of yours, you guys are best buddies? How you guys meet each other?