"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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I'm so confused.

I have this roommate. He's a bit younger than I am (couple of years)...he's a cool guy. We get along well together, but sometimes he can be pretty immature. It's kinda hard to explain...he's very...boyish. Has a lot of energy, carefree attitude on rejection, and is overall outgoing. He makes for a good wingman when meeting girls. And that's the thing, he can get any girl. I mean I have no idea how he does it. He can be pretty immature (like a 12 year old hyperactive kid) and yet somehow these girls seem to be interested. He meets a girl at a party, they chat, as we're leaving you get the impression she has no real interest, and then bam! 5 minutes later she starts texting him all night.


The irritating part is I used to be like this guy! I could get girls so easily, mainly because I was so confident in myself and was having fun. I just didn't know what failure was. Not until I started dating...only to discovered that I can get jealous at times, which lead to insecurity, but mainly clinginess.


After many relationships ruined due to my clinginess/non-DJism, I got a good taste of failure. Mind you this is all over the course of a couple years with various girls. My confidence since has been shot. Conversations are harder to keep flowing. What used to come naturally now is a bit of a struggle.


I'm just kind of using this post to get this off my chest and gather my thoughts; not trying to get answers out of you guys (but any are welcome).
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Mr. Wolf said:
He speaks to women's emotions and you speak to their intellect. http://www.bristollair.com/outer-game/techniques/tactics/amog-tactics.html


Just reading your post made me vomit.. WTF? Are you kidding me? Are you that AFC! It sux dude, I hope you can get a drink and get that crap out of your system.


So, do you guys sleep in the same bed?
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Har har. (Hell no for the record)

And yes, I know I've got afc running through my veins. It was kind of dormant in me before I started dating and now it's consumed me. I've been working hard trying to develop myself out of it, make my own goals, etc., but still need a lot of work/help.
 
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thats cool man, at least you are identifying with the issue. And this is absolutely something you can change. This can be worked on for sure.... So I would suggest just making a goal to turn yourself around and work at it.... Get good with woman.


I think I went through the same thing.... I used to be really good with girls when I was a teenager, I was just very free, energetic, playful and creative, it just worked... But as I got older, more mature and intelligent I started losing that pizazz. But I'm starting to become that way again. Its fun. Thats all it really is, its like being allowed to still act free and wild... Although even better cause now your conscious of everything, more intelligent... You have the potential to be 10 times better than your roommate. But anything great must be worked on.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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joey2times said:
I think jon has a "man crush"
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*shudders* No thank you.

And hey don't get me wrong. When he's chatting with these girls I don't go up and try to make myself look like an ******* like the guy in the article Mr. Wolf linked.

Randallpink83 said:
thats cool man, at least you are identifying with the issue. And this is absolutely something you can change. This can be worked on for sure.... So I would suggest just making a goal to turn yourself around and work at it.... Get good with woman.


I think I went through the same thing.... I used to be really good with girls when I was a teenager, I was just very free, energetic, playful and creative, it just worked... But as I got older, more mature and intelligent I started losing that pizazz. But I'm starting to become that way again. Its fun. Thats all it really is, its like being allowed to still act free and wild... Although even better cause now your conscious of everything, more intelligent... You have the potential to be 10 times better than your roommate. But anything great must be worked on.
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Thanks guy. I try reading through and attempting a ton of posts/threads for every new thread I make. I couldn't have been able to realize it without coming across this forum.
 
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So you prefer when your boyfriend is done chatting up girls so you two can retire in your apartment and be alone, eh.. Do you guys use a condom?
 
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Mr. Wolf said:
So you prefer when your boyfriend is done chatting up girls so you two can retire in your apartment and be alone, eh.. Do you guys use a condom?
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wtf? I'd expect to hear something like that out of a middle schooler.
 
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Mr. Wolf said:
Haha, you're so mature. Your girlfriend must really love you for that.
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Are you trying your best to troll?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Nah dude.. Come on. That room mate of yours, you guys are best buddies? How you guys meet each other?
 
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