"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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I made a date with a girl on the phone and then texted her my address after I got off the phone. She didn't reply "okay" or "gotcha" like other times. Should I just cancel the date? I don't want to get flaked on for that. She probably sees me as a needy phaggot now.
 

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I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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I usually don't do things like that. I think it's worst I've ever done. So I'm debating on whether to next her before she nexts me. I obviously came across too eager.

She thinks I need her reassurance now. She thinks I have no confidence and she's gonna blow me off.

I don't want to be at a risk for flaking because of that. What should my cancellation text be?

I'm seeing a different girl on Wednesday. I might as well focus just on her. I was already on thin ice with her after she wanted to reschedule last time.

This is OVER. And I wanna be the one to end it. I just don't know how?
 

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Who cares , she shows up then she shows up.
If she doesn't ...just delete number and learn from your mistake ? It's not that serious.
 

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Did I seem that needy by texting her my address? Was it that bad of a mistake? Did she HAVE to respond?

Everything sounded so good on the phone. She's just leading me on and blowing me off I guess.

How could I lose a date from just texting her my addres?!

I don't want to risk a flake. What's the best way to cancel to make her think I'm not a wuss?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Giantsfan88 said:
Did I seem that needy by texting her my address? How bad of a mistake was it? Did she HAVE to respond?

Everything sounded so good on the phone. She's just leading me on and blowing me off I guess.

How could I lose a date from just texting her my addres?!

I don't want to risk a flake. What's the best way to cancel to make her think I'm not a wuss?

You texted address too?
 

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mrpickles666 said:
I made a date with a girl on the phone and then texted her my address after I got off the phone. She didn't reply "okay" or "gotcha" like other times. Should I just cancel the date? I don't want to get flaked on for that. She probably sees me as a needy phaggot now.
So let me get this straight.. She's gonna head over to your place on the day of the date, so you sent her your address via text. Wtf is remotely needy about that? I always text the address because I don't like waiting while people slowly write down an address. Plus it's easy to copy and paste into maps. You're way overthinking this dude.

The only thing that's gonna cause her to next you is this insecurity. Is her reply of "ok" that necessary?
 

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Well she gave me an okay other times. I just sent it to her because I have two houses. She said SHE was gonna confirm with ME the day before. Thus I disrupted rapport and conveyed neediness. She would have asked me my address upon her confirmation.
 

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I'd rather someone text me an address than tell me on the phone. I don't think you messed up at all. Just sit back and see if she shows up. If she don't, then go on about your bui-ness. I wouldn't text or call her again. Your silence and NC if she doesn't show tells her that you felt the same about her as she did you. She didn't come, and you didn't care. You still win.
 

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mrpickles666 said:
I usually don't do things like that. I think it's worst I've ever done. So I'm debating on whether to next her before she nexts me. I obviously came across too eager.

She thinks I need her reassurance now. She thinks I have no confidence and she's gonna blow me off.

I don't want to be at a risk for flaking because of that. What should my cancellation text be?

I'm seeing a different girl on Wednesday. I might as well focus just on her. I was already on thin ice with her after she wanted to reschedule last time.

This is OVER. And I wanna be the one to end it. I just don't know how?
Say nothing. Eat a pickle and forget about her if she don't come.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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But me texting her my address and her not saying "ok" to that communicates that I have a higher IL than her so what's the point? I don't want to be made an a$$ out of.

I don't want a flake. She obviously doesn't like me. She just wants attention and to string me along. I sounded too happy on the phone with her too by the way.
 
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