"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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I'm so beta...

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I made a date with a girl on the phone and then texted her my address after I got off the phone. She didn't reply "okay" or "gotcha" like other times. Should I just cancel the date? I don't want to get flaked on for that. She probably sees me as a needy phaggot now.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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I usually don't do things like that. I think it's worst I've ever done. So I'm debating on whether to next her before she nexts me. I obviously came across too eager.

She thinks I need her reassurance now. She thinks I have no confidence and she's gonna blow me off.

I don't want to be at a risk for flaking because of that. What should my cancellation text be?

I'm seeing a different girl on Wednesday. I might as well focus just on her. I was already on thin ice with her after she wanted to reschedule last time.

This is OVER. And I wanna be the one to end it. I just don't know how?
 

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Who cares , she shows up then she shows up.
If she doesn't ...just delete number and learn from your mistake ? It's not that serious.
 

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Did I seem that needy by texting her my address? Was it that bad of a mistake? Did she HAVE to respond?

Everything sounded so good on the phone. She's just leading me on and blowing me off I guess.

How could I lose a date from just texting her my addres?!

I don't want to risk a flake. What's the best way to cancel to make her think I'm not a wuss?
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Giantsfan88 said:
Did I seem that needy by texting her my address? How bad of a mistake was it? Did she HAVE to respond?

Everything sounded so good on the phone. She's just leading me on and blowing me off I guess.

How could I lose a date from just texting her my addres?!

I don't want to risk a flake. What's the best way to cancel to make her think I'm not a wuss?

You texted address too?
 

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mrpickles666 said:
I made a date with a girl on the phone and then texted her my address after I got off the phone. She didn't reply "okay" or "gotcha" like other times. Should I just cancel the date? I don't want to get flaked on for that. She probably sees me as a needy phaggot now.
So let me get this straight.. She's gonna head over to your place on the day of the date, so you sent her your address via text. Wtf is remotely needy about that? I always text the address because I don't like waiting while people slowly write down an address. Plus it's easy to copy and paste into maps. You're way overthinking this dude.

The only thing that's gonna cause her to next you is this insecurity. Is her reply of "ok" that necessary?
 

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Well she gave me an okay other times. I just sent it to her because I have two houses. She said SHE was gonna confirm with ME the day before. Thus I disrupted rapport and conveyed neediness. She would have asked me my address upon her confirmation.
 

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I'd rather someone text me an address than tell me on the phone. I don't think you messed up at all. Just sit back and see if she shows up. If she don't, then go on about your bui-ness. I wouldn't text or call her again. Your silence and NC if she doesn't show tells her that you felt the same about her as she did you. She didn't come, and you didn't care. You still win.
 

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mrpickles666 said:
I usually don't do things like that. I think it's worst I've ever done. So I'm debating on whether to next her before she nexts me. I obviously came across too eager.

She thinks I need her reassurance now. She thinks I have no confidence and she's gonna blow me off.

I don't want to be at a risk for flaking because of that. What should my cancellation text be?

I'm seeing a different girl on Wednesday. I might as well focus just on her. I was already on thin ice with her after she wanted to reschedule last time.

This is OVER. And I wanna be the one to end it. I just don't know how?
Say nothing. Eat a pickle and forget about her if she don't come.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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But me texting her my address and her not saying "ok" to that communicates that I have a higher IL than her so what's the point? I don't want to be made an a$$ out of.

I don't want a flake. She obviously doesn't like me. She just wants attention and to string me along. I sounded too happy on the phone with her too by the way.
 
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