I'm sick of myself

[SuchaPlayer]

Hi, I just registered, but have been reading this forum for months.

A few days ago, I got my first GF that I don't have any hard feelings for - and that's the problem. It may sound AFC, but I feel sick of myself - I only like her looks but pretend I love her and really feel like ruining her life after just a kiss. I can't imagine how I would feel after having sex with her.

Did you ever get this feeling before? How do you deal with it? Thank you

 

[D_Master]

Well I too don't post a lot on here but I thought I would post to help you out. If you just met this girl then I would say you shouldn't "love" her yet. Initially I've felt like I am only really attracted to a girl's looks for awhile while I get to know her. Then you either decide if she's realtionship material or not.
Also I don't understand what you mean when you say you want to ruin her life after 1 kiss. What is that all about? Ultimately I would just say don't worry about having feelings of love right now. That trash about falling in love at 1st sight is very, very rare and usually in movies. Now if these feelings continue, then I would suggest that you break it off with her before you do ruin her life.

 

[SuchaPlayer]

Originally posted by D_Master
I don't understand what you mean when you say you want to ruin her life after 1 kiss. What is that all about?

well she seemed to have some strong feelings for me, that's why. thanks fo your input

 

[Royal-tiger]

Follow the moment ...

First of all, you are too young to think about what will happen if she does this or that. Second, you don't control how someone feels about you -- like or dislike.

Having said that, you should enjoy your get together with this chick without projecting anything. You don't anticipate something long-term everytime you kiss/sleep with someone. BTW, she knows this as well.

However, if you don't feel anything for this chick then don't go too fast or at least let the reality be clear to her without misleading her.

There are times when we all pretend. And there is nothing wrong with that. Just be clear in your mind.

 

[SuchaPlayer]

Re: Follow the moment ...

Originally posted by Royal-tiger
you don't control how someone feels about you

We on this site do and know it. And thats the problem.

 

[Royal-tiger]

Be real!

Originally posted by SuchaPlayer
We on this site do and know it.

Really! I have been on this site probably much longer than you have and "WE" always reiterate that one should, for example, learn how not to take rejection personally. Meaning you can't make a woman like/love you if she does not. Translation: You don't control how others feel about you; you can, however, make a better case for yourself.

Don't waste your time living in personally defined pseudo-concepts of Don Juanism. You will be doing a great favor to yourself and be a better DJ in the process.