"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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I'm sick of myself

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Hi, I just registered, but have been reading this forum for months.

A few days ago, I got my first GF that I don't have any hard feelings for - and that's the problem. It may sound AFC, but I feel sick of myself - I only like her looks but pretend I love her and really feel like ruining her life after just a kiss. I can't imagine how I would feel after having sex with her.

Did you ever get this feeling before? How do you deal with it? Thank you
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Well I too don't post a lot on here but I thought I would post to help you out. If you just met this girl then I would say you shouldn't "love" her yet. Initially I've felt like I am only really attracted to a girl's looks for awhile while I get to know her. Then you either decide if she's realtionship material or not.
Also I don't understand what you mean when you say you want to ruin her life after 1 kiss. What is that all about? Ultimately I would just say don't worry about having feelings of love right now. That trash about falling in love at 1st sight is very, very rare and usually in movies. Now if these feelings continue, then I would suggest that you break it off with her before you do ruin her life.
 
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Originally posted by D_Master
I don't understand what you mean when you say you want to ruin her life after 1 kiss. What is that all about?
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well she seemed to have some strong feelings for me, that's why. thanks fo your input :)
 
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Follow the moment ...

First of all, you are too young to think about what will happen if she does this or that. Second, you don't control how someone feels about you -- like or dislike.

Having said that, you should enjoy your get together with this chick without projecting anything. You don't anticipate something long-term everytime you kiss/sleep with someone. BTW, she knows this as well.

However, if you don't feel anything for this chick then don't go too fast or at least let the reality be clear to her without misleading her.

There are times when we all pretend. And there is nothing wrong with that. Just be clear in your mind.
 
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Re: Follow the moment ...

Originally posted by Royal-tiger
you don't control how someone feels about you
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We on this site do and know it. And thats the problem.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Be real!

Originally posted by SuchaPlayer
We on this site do and know it.
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Really! I have been on this site probably much longer than you have and "WE" always reiterate that one should, for example, learn how not to take rejection personally. Meaning you can't make a woman like/love you if she does not. Translation: You don't control how others feel about you; you can, however, make a better case for yourself.

Don't waste your time living in personally defined pseudo-concepts of Don Juanism. You will be doing a great favor to yourself and be a better DJ in the process.
 
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