"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Errr, don't know what's wrong with me. I met this girl at the start of the summer, she talked for a bit then stopped. Anyways, we've started talking again recently, and to be quite honest I've not been so excited to just talk with someone (nothing else has happened yet, logistics on her end are horrible). Well, we won't be able to hang out for a while (not sure how long, she's travelling for work a lot right now, and while she'll be back for a day or 2 soon I can't get the time off to spend with her). I can't stop thinking about her, and even though I'm chilling with another girl over the next couple weeks it doesn't help at all (she's a girl I talked about in another thread).

Have any of you guys had this problem and what did you do about it.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Chill with another chic yet,make it 3 just incase the other ones fall through.
 
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scrouds said:
Dude, she's just not that in to you. Move on.
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dude, she travels for work. Did I give any details that would give you that impression other than she is going to be out of town for a while? That's not the answer to every post on here ( though sometimes seems like that ).
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=80553 ... Oneitis.. Recognize it early and do not let it get the best of you. Trust me. It sucks.
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don't think it's got to that point yet. But is always good to watch out for. I've guess decided to do my best and not think of her. And only contact her after she's contacted me (which has already started, in the last couple days she's sent me half a dozen emails).
 
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Kal0051 said:
don't think it's got to that point yet. But is always good to watch out for. I've guess decided to do my best and not think of her. And only contact her after she's contacted me (which has already started, in the last couple days she's sent me half a dozen emails).
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Oneitis means she's a girl you can't stop thinking about (which you stated in the OP.) Man I just want you to recognize this. Having oneitis isn't a bad thing, it just means that you're putting too much thought into a girl.
Believe it or not, you can have multiple cases of oneitis running at once.

As for your situation, the best thing you could do for yourself is to try to detach yourself from thinking about her as much as you are. This will free your thoughts to focus more on yourself, and women who are more available.

Right now she's unavailable to you. Forget about her until she stops traveling so much so she can satisfy your date request. There's really nothing else you can do without putting your happiness and well-being on the line.
 
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