"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
I'm really good with women.......when I drink alcohol!
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Well, I am assuming you know why? Alcohol gives you confidence.... You will take more risks when you are drunk. You won't care so much about what could go wrong. In all situations... approaching girls, getting in fights etc etc...
I often wake up in the morning to be horrified of the calls I made when I was drunk lol Its because all of a sudden I didn't care about the things that could go wrong..
So, you need to work on confidence, removing fear when sober.. lol, so do I, I am not claiming to be a DJ or anything, I am new here.
Last weekend, I was on fire. I was pretty drunk, and was chatting up 2 legal secretaries. I was making them laugh every other second, and they were well into me, really enjoying my company. Can I do that sober? Not yet, but theres absolutely no reason why not if it can be done drunk....
If worst comes to worst, get drunk, get the numbers and ring them when sober lol
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The downside is that you get sloppy. You start to do things that indicate your drunk-ness without even realizing it...and she picks up on those things and is turned off, unless she's EQUALLY drunk.
The upside is that it removes the inhibition you have. You don't have to play the supplicating socially-responsible chump any more...you can talk to women like you always wanted to and if anyone says anything, "Fvck it, I was drunk."
Now you have to figure out how to get there SOBER.
The people acted similarly at both parties. Starting off a little shy and reserved and as they got more beer in them, they had an easier time laughing and talking and goofing around.
Basically, it was the PRESENCE of "alcohol" that loosened them up.
I know that alcohol DEFINITELY affects your body and mental abilities (Oh good Lord do I know this well . . . and in case I forgot I'm going to remind myself tonight . . .), but there IS a factor of just feeling more comfortable when you see other people drinking like you are.
Just an interesting study I once heard about.
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sfalexi, that's a pretty good example of ppl loosening up and what not... reminds of a movie called whipped and one of the main characters said that he gets laid by creating some sort of ice breaker with a chick by pretending he's her friends brother... always kept using the name Jen i think...
SO yah the whole idea was that the parties loosened up when they say everyone drinking... find common ground to connect with ppl i guess....
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
I reach different zones drinking...after two or three, I have a nice buzz...my tounge loosens up and it's easier to talk...I can be charming at this stage. After a few more, I get philosophical and start arguing about religion or something stupid. If I have a few more...then I start acting drunk...stumbling around, not in control of what I'm saying or doing. Bad things happen...such as my girlfriend getting pissed and eventually breaking up with me (just read my other posts). I'm staying in the first zone from now on when out in public.
I have seen myself on video drunk, telling about my night out. The best way to describe it would be a somewhat crazy storyteller without a social filter going caveman style.
My main thing was that when I drank I truly didn't gave a fvck anymore. You really don't need alcohol, to let the beast come out. Just dare yourself to do some crazy stuff and you'll get there.