"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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I'm really bout 2 next this chick...

BxPrince24

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So yesterday I IM her and she's unresponsive to my questions, like she was occupied with something, she took a while before responding to my questions. So I leave it at that and told her later.

Today I send her a text if she wants to go out next week, and I get no reply. I'm bout to just drop her, I'm too f*cking valuable to be wasting any time. So I'm bout 2 send her a text sayin what's up with her or is everything alright with her, or I might give her a call.

What do u guys think?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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if she wants to go out next week
You gave up your power man. You should perhaps tell her that you want to see her and give date/time/etc. If your gonna next her or thinking about it... Tell her its her last chance to get together before you decide. Gotta raise the power up 5k. Lol

I love stringing things like my power man 5k refrence. Without hardly thinking about it weird... anyways... You gotta lay it out, before you play it out
 

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nah, f*ck it. f*ck her. I really don't need this sh*t.

She texts me saying she's unsure where she wants to go and tuesday is good for her. So I IMed her when I got home to let her know I got the job I applied for so I don't know if I'll be able to go on tuesday but I'll let her know. Then she signs off.

I seriously don't give a f*ck right now. I don't need any stress or sh*t in my life. I'm not callin her ass again nor am I IMing her, she can go suck a d*ck. She don't know who the hell she messing with. For the few weeks we were goin out I coulda been banging the sh*t outta other girls. Yo.. What?... Next!.... What?... U deaf motha f*cka?... NEXT!!!!
 

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Ok, now that I've worked out for a bit and got my mind back, yea, I was just overreacting. One of those things like how you do stupid things without thinking, just in the moment. yea. And it was her pc restarting when I IMed her.

I'm not really gonna next her. I don't know, lately, I've been feeling like I don't want to be in a relationship even though I'm lovin being in one. It's not a problem with her, it's with me.

This is my first relationship ever. First girlfriend I've had in 18 years. I guess I've gotten use to being by myself and maybe a part of me want's to go back to that. I know it's sub concious because I want to stay with her.

It's like, you raise a dog in your house for half of it's life then you try to give him to your son to keep, but because the area is new the dog wants to go back to your house, because it's safe, it knows what to expect at your house.
 

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I wasnt going to say anything.... for a bit since you seemed alittle hostile. But you used that energy and put it to better use. Like workin them iron muscles...

Dont let yourself slip into oneitis very dangerous...

I should know it almost killed me (literally) because of this girl I lost alot. ( DUI, driving to elude, and mental institution later.. ) Im stronger then I was before. What doesnt kill you makes you stronger.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Set up date up firm dates and times. None of this lets go out sometime stuff.
 

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Whenever you find a girl totally intolerable, such as she won't answer your messages/calls or pulls stupid stunts - ALWAYS question her, and then prepare to NEXT her, DON'T WORRY about "putting the ball in her court" or "looking fearful" Being a man is having an open heart." NEXT HER, you don't need this.
 
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