"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Enough of this AFC sh!t! ENOUGH! I'm am all talk no action, and quite frankly, I'm damn tired of it! I'm insecure, and i don't even know why, but i do know that I'm sick of it! There is nothing to be ashamed of. I'm talented, smart, and I'm def. not ugly, so why be so ashamed of who I am? I have confidence, or that's what all my friends say, but the fact of the matter is that my friends don't have any confidence to begin w/. I hide my insecurities w/ humor. I can't help it. My dad taught me to hide my weaknesses, and because of it I don't know how to communicate w/ people on a personal level. I know, I sound like a damn chick, but in reality it's just how i am. How can i live life w.o ever crying, or w.o ever connecting w/ someone other than my parents? How sad is that. Wow, this kid never cries. Yeah i know, I don't. I haven't since i was 8. And i want to be able to express myself without fear of being judged. Truth be told I'm F***** up. On the outside it seems like I'm the typical teenager, with a lot of friends, and a good life, but internally I'm just broken. I'm done w/ LJBF, I DONT WANT FRIEND GIRLS! I'm done w/ bottling my emotions! I'm done w/ my fear of rejection! I am a damn man. I will not be restricted from living my life to the fullest. Who's with me? Who wants to shed their AFCISM and actually become the man they were suppose to?
I'm living my life, and I'm going to live it to the fullest. I only have one life, so why waste it? Starting tomorrow, I'm walking the path of a DJ. I'm taking the road to manhood.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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I'm in the Mood

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Yo I feel you man. Stick it to those LJBF b!tches.
I've had the same problems possibly much worse tho.
The sad truth is, in the end, most girls u like are fvcking b!tches, but they might still be nice to you to save their reputation.

If a girl u really want LJBFs you, forget her and flirt with other girls, just for fun. At some point she'll notice you and she may see that girls find something interesting in you.

Also u gotta live your life to the fullest. I just started living this monday. Before, I never even talked in class and I had like no friends. It's like magic though once you have the motivation and actually do something.

Keep your brotha DJs close too. U can do this sht!
 
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There's some freshman chick that is showing interest in me, and she happens to be pretty damn hot. There is no way i'm passing this opportunity up. She eats lunch at the same time I do. What do you recomend i do guys?
 
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Talk to her????
 
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Yeah, that's obvious........... I mean, she's interested in me. Should i use kino? I don't want to overanalyze or else I'll flake up.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Jokerlsk said:
Yeah, that's obvious........... I mean, she's interested in me. Should i use kino? I don't want to overanalyze or else I'll flake up.
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I concur with Oakraider, talk to her.

Anything more at this point is overanalysing.
 
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yea keep it simple
 
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Jokerlsk said:
Yeah, that's obvious........... I mean, she's interested in me. Should i use kino? I don't want to overanalyze or else I'll flake up.
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Too late.
 
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The problem with this game is that you can't decide to have confidence and not be AFC. It doesn't work like that. Confidence is illusory. You need competence. So throw this "one chick at a time attitude" out. Approach the entire world around you. Be indifferent if a girl rejects you, be cool if a girl likes you. Keep gaming, and let that confidence develop slowly over time.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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OKay, to keep you guys updated......... I've been talking to this one girl that goes to a school across town. She added me on facebook, and we've been talking on the phone/texting a lot. Anyways, we got to talking, and she tells me that she thinks I'm sexy, and I say something along the lines of, "Yeah, I know." She goes off to say that I'm probably a manwh*re, and I say, "I'm not a *****, I'm a pimp." She goes off to say that I'm her hoe, and I tell her that She can tell her friends that, but in bed she's my slut. She told me to text her, and I said "I'll think about it." She went off to say she would cry if i didn't and I said, "That's something I'm willing to risk." Anyways, I wait an hour, and I don't text her, she ends up texting me, and we talk some fluff. She ends up calling me again, and I bring up something about a family bathroom, and she said "I've always wanted to f*ck in one of those." And I said, "Hmmmm, I wonder who you'd f*ck?" Evidently, I'm the person she was talking about. We went on over that stuff, but I felt the conversation die down, so i told her I had to go, she asked why, and I said cause I have a life. Then she replied with, "I'm not the most important thing in your life?" And I said, "No, my hand is hahaha."
The thing is, is that I never actually asked her out........ I know I should of, but she's a "bad girl/attention *****"...... I'm kind of conflicting in my mind whether or not I should ask her out. I've only met her twice, so w.e. It seems like she's interested, actually, I'm positive she's interested. What would a true DJ do in this situation?
 
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A "true DJ" wouldn't ask what to do on a forum. Don't play games. Don't try to flirt.

CUT THROUGH ALL THE BULL**** first chance you get.

"Hey, you're kinda cute. We should hang out sometime"

She then either says yes or no, you know if she's interested and you don't need to over analyze anything.

You are either in control or you aren't. A DJ doesn't play games with women because he doesn't have time.

The best way to avoid becoming "friends" with girls is TO STOP ACTING LIKE A FRIEND. Friends talk and text each other and sh!t. A real man doesn't need to do that because he knows he doesn't need to "game" a girl to "make" her interested. HE KNOWS HE IS GOOD ENOUGH. PERIOD. No game, no anything.

One sentence,

"hey we should hang out sometime".

ACTION.

Do you like this girl? Attracted to her? Then yes ask her out. Quit thinking so much. If you aren't feeling it then don't, easy as that.

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