"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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I'm rally cold when a girl is attracted to me/starts comnversation with me

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I've noticed for quite a few months now, that I am REALLY cold and standoffish towards any girl that starts a conversation with me, even if I find her attractive. It's almost as if I'm testing them, but unconsciously.

If a girl that I'm attracted to stands next to me (and I know that she's attracted to me as well) I'll just stand there, and pretty much ignore her.

This is kind of a problem, has anyone else experienced anything similar?
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Acutally yeah, I USED to do that exact same thing ALOT. It's only the initiating part though, once one of us starts the conversation then it's completely fine and always fun.

Recently I've stopped doing it; I'm not sure what caused it though. Basically I just tease a lot and there is always something to talk about, because I think that's why I wouldn't initiate (nothing to say)
 
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I, too, am standoffish when a girl shows interest in me. I'd rather work for a girl's attraction.
 
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Me too. I think it's from being afraid of messing up, which is really crazy because the girls i'm attracted to never hit on me. So, i couldn't care less about these girls, yet i'm afraid.

Bummer :confused:
 
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faiNt` said:
Acutally yeah, I USED to do that exact same thing ALOT. It's only the initiating part though, once one of us starts the conversation then it's completely fine and always fun.

Recently I've stopped doing it; I'm not sure what caused it though. Basically I just tease a lot and there is always something to talk about, because I think that's why I wouldn't initiate (nothing to say)
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Oh man I feel like I'm gonna pass out after doing my first day of pushups...
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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