"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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I'm rally cold when a girl is attracted to me/starts comnversation with me

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I've noticed for quite a few months now, that I am REALLY cold and standoffish towards any girl that starts a conversation with me, even if I find her attractive. It's almost as if I'm testing them, but unconsciously.

If a girl that I'm attracted to stands next to me (and I know that she's attracted to me as well) I'll just stand there, and pretty much ignore her.

This is kind of a problem, has anyone else experienced anything similar?
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Acutally yeah, I USED to do that exact same thing ALOT. It's only the initiating part though, once one of us starts the conversation then it's completely fine and always fun.

Recently I've stopped doing it; I'm not sure what caused it though. Basically I just tease a lot and there is always something to talk about, because I think that's why I wouldn't initiate (nothing to say)
 
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I, too, am standoffish when a girl shows interest in me. I'd rather work for a girl's attraction.
 
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Me too. I think it's from being afraid of messing up, which is really crazy because the girls i'm attracted to never hit on me. So, i couldn't care less about these girls, yet i'm afraid.

Bummer :confused:
 
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faiNt` said:
Acutally yeah, I USED to do that exact same thing ALOT. It's only the initiating part though, once one of us starts the conversation then it's completely fine and always fun.

Recently I've stopped doing it; I'm not sure what caused it though. Basically I just tease a lot and there is always something to talk about, because I think that's why I wouldn't initiate (nothing to say)
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Oh man I feel like I'm gonna pass out after doing my first day of pushups...
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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