"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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I spent the day with a girl I am interested in, as well as two other guy friends, and talk about a C0ckblock! One of them just monopolized the conversation, and everytime I brought up a subject, he would take over and talk and every time I tried to say more about the subject, the subject changed. Arg. Then they seem to start flirting, even though I know he is seriously interested with another girl. Insult to injury. Then, we start messing on the PC, and spend time watching the stupidest video clips I ever saw. Before that we played a game, "Mad Gab" and PS2, and for the first time in my life, I actually wanted to go home cuz I was so bored, pissed, and feeling down.

I don't ever plan on having this friend with me again as long as I am haning out with this girl.

I am way too young to be in love really, but I am not even able to sleep, which is really unusual for me.

I guess this is just a rant. But I still ain't feeling better. DAmn.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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the number 1 thing i've learned is. TO NOT HAVE ANY OF YOUR FRIENDS AROUND YOU when your with a girl. but see theres a way to still see a girl with a friend around. All you gotta do is make the guy look bad infront of the girl and keep it up.
 
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Oh, come on, man. At 800+ posts, you should know how to defuse an AMOG situation easily. If you want an AMOG to stop a behavior, pin them on it, and associate it to their interest in the girl.

AMOG: Keeps talking to the girl and makes it so you can't grab center.
You say: "Dude, you two are like a married couple, except HE's the one with the gab."

You can subtlely inject into the woman's mind that the AMOG is simply being desperate and needy by associating his interest with a set of behaviors. Learn it, practice it, internalize it.

-Damian
 
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Thanks for the advice guys. Damien, I know how to deal with amogs, but this guy is a really good friend, and I don't wanna make him look like a real ass in front of her cuz she is good friends with him too and will just make me the villian if I shut him down.

I was venting, and it helped. I did get some sleep and felt better today.
 
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That sucks.

Try talking to him and explaining why you're pissed off in private. Don't go off on him, he probably didn't realize what he was doing.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Phat said:
the number 1 thing i've learned is. TO NOT HAVE ANY OF YOUR FRIENDS AROUND YOU when your with a girl. but see theres a way to still see a girl with a friend around. All you gotta do is make the guy look bad infront of the girl and keep it up.
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NO! diffinately not make ur friend look bad infront of a girl. Talkin to him is the best way tell him the girl ur working on if he refuses to listen hes not worth ur breath nor friendship. Dont ever make him look bad though simply see what he is doing analize and customize, i mean he must be doing somthing right to get the girls attention away from you.
 
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MVP¤¥¤JI€GALO said:
NO! diffinately not make ur friend look bad infront of a girl. Talkin to him is the best way tell him the girl ur working on if he refuses to listen hes not worth ur breath nor friendship. Dont ever make him look bad though simply see what he is doing analize and customize, i mean he must be doing somthing right to get the girls attention away from you.
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It isn't something he is doing right that I am not doing enough of, it is just that they are more into stupid videos and video game freaks. I am not. I can usually hold her attention pretty well, and am closer to her then he is. Guess it is a confidence issue, although it is really rare, for me that is.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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wavejam, watch who you call friend. a really good friend would let you work your game and then afterwords tell you his opinion on the whole situation. I have a good friend and he has game and if he really wanted to he could try to ****block me but he doesnt. Instead he just helps. I used to have friends like yours and they are still my friends but not good friends anymore
 
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42-Colrath said:
wavejam, watch who you call friend. a really good friend would let you work your game and then afterwords tell you his opinion on the whole situation. I have a good friend and he has game and if he really wanted to he could try to ****block me but he doesnt. Instead he just helps. I used to have friends like yours and they are still my friends but not good friends anymore
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note taken colrath. will do. I am actually thinking it is probably best to only hang out with him when it is a "just us guys" hanging out time.
 
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live and learn?
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yep.

Anyways, I have a month till graduation, so I am really just looking for a good time. So in the end, it doesn't matter.

I can't wait to go to college and meet new people!
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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