"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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I spent the day with a girl I am interested in, as well as two other guy friends, and talk about a C0ckblock! One of them just monopolized the conversation, and everytime I brought up a subject, he would take over and talk and every time I tried to say more about the subject, the subject changed. Arg. Then they seem to start flirting, even though I know he is seriously interested with another girl. Insult to injury. Then, we start messing on the PC, and spend time watching the stupidest video clips I ever saw. Before that we played a game, "Mad Gab" and PS2, and for the first time in my life, I actually wanted to go home cuz I was so bored, pissed, and feeling down.

I don't ever plan on having this friend with me again as long as I am haning out with this girl.

I am way too young to be in love really, but I am not even able to sleep, which is really unusual for me.

I guess this is just a rant. But I still ain't feeling better. DAmn.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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the number 1 thing i've learned is. TO NOT HAVE ANY OF YOUR FRIENDS AROUND YOU when your with a girl. but see theres a way to still see a girl with a friend around. All you gotta do is make the guy look bad infront of the girl and keep it up.
 

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Oh, come on, man. At 800+ posts, you should know how to defuse an AMOG situation easily. If you want an AMOG to stop a behavior, pin them on it, and associate it to their interest in the girl.

AMOG: Keeps talking to the girl and makes it so you can't grab center.
You say: "Dude, you two are like a married couple, except HE's the one with the gab."

You can subtlely inject into the woman's mind that the AMOG is simply being desperate and needy by associating his interest with a set of behaviors. Learn it, practice it, internalize it.

-Damian
 

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Thanks for the advice guys. Damien, I know how to deal with amogs, but this guy is a really good friend, and I don't wanna make him look like a real ass in front of her cuz she is good friends with him too and will just make me the villian if I shut him down.

I was venting, and it helped. I did get some sleep and felt better today.
 

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That sucks.

Try talking to him and explaining why you're pissed off in private. Don't go off on him, he probably didn't realize what he was doing.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Phat said:
the number 1 thing i've learned is. TO NOT HAVE ANY OF YOUR FRIENDS AROUND YOU when your with a girl. but see theres a way to still see a girl with a friend around. All you gotta do is make the guy look bad infront of the girl and keep it up.
NO! diffinately not make ur friend look bad infront of a girl. Talkin to him is the best way tell him the girl ur working on if he refuses to listen hes not worth ur breath nor friendship. Dont ever make him look bad though simply see what he is doing analize and customize, i mean he must be doing somthing right to get the girls attention away from you.
 

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MVP¤¥¤JI€GALO said:
NO! diffinately not make ur friend look bad infront of a girl. Talkin to him is the best way tell him the girl ur working on if he refuses to listen hes not worth ur breath nor friendship. Dont ever make him look bad though simply see what he is doing analize and customize, i mean he must be doing somthing right to get the girls attention away from you.
It isn't something he is doing right that I am not doing enough of, it is just that they are more into stupid videos and video game freaks. I am not. I can usually hold her attention pretty well, and am closer to her then he is. Guess it is a confidence issue, although it is really rare, for me that is.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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wavejam, watch who you call friend. a really good friend would let you work your game and then afterwords tell you his opinion on the whole situation. I have a good friend and he has game and if he really wanted to he could try to ****block me but he doesnt. Instead he just helps. I used to have friends like yours and they are still my friends but not good friends anymore
 

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42-Colrath said:
wavejam, watch who you call friend. a really good friend would let you work your game and then afterwords tell you his opinion on the whole situation. I have a good friend and he has game and if he really wanted to he could try to ****block me but he doesnt. Instead he just helps. I used to have friends like yours and they are still my friends but not good friends anymore
note taken colrath. will do. I am actually thinking it is probably best to only hang out with him when it is a "just us guys" hanging out time.
 

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penkitten said:
live and learn?
yep.

Anyways, I have a month till graduation, so I am really just looking for a good time. So in the end, it doesn't matter.

I can't wait to go to college and meet new people!
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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