"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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I'm nuts about a girl at work (No AFC)

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It started with us chatting after work for a few minutes, then her seeming a little nervous around me when we were alone, then suddenly - nothing. Interest rapidly decreased. I'm like: what the f*ck.

This is how it works: attraction is created by showing interest, taking it away; two steps forward, one step back.

She has put a spell on me. I hate the lack of control this entails. But when I see her, I just want to plow her. She has an average ass - nothing great at all, but it's the most mesmerising thing at work. When she walks by me, I have to turn my head to gaze at her. I even sometimes wear contacts into work just so I can see her better.

She has no f*cking idea.

We hardly ever talk - I never have an excuse to go over and talk to her.

I'm finishing work very soon - about 3 weeks. And I need to ask for her number, but I don't know how to do it...

The problem is, I think she has ZERO interest now. She emailed me in work a work-related question, and I responded and threw in a "by the way.." and asked her about what college course she did. She responded, and I asked a follow up question and she didn't respond.

So, I think I just need to slap myself hard and think, meh, so what.

Thoughts?
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Well, you might as well go for it. Just ask her out. Nothing to lose, right?
 
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If you think she has zero interest, I highly suggest you give up on her.
With this mindset even if you do approach her, you're gonna seem a little awkward, especially if you just want to fvck her. Honestly, your post protrays yourself as a creepy guy with low to no confidence. This is a losing combination, and I think you do have an AFC attitude about this situation.

Man, slap yourself hard and think "I can do better than this average ass broad."
 
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I'm in the Mood said:
If you think she has zero interest, I highly suggest you give up on her.
With this mindset even if you do approach her, you're gonna seem a little awkward, especially if you just want to fvck her. Honestly, your post protrays yourself as a creepy guy with low to no confidence. This is a losing combination, and I think you do have an AFC attitude about this situation.

Man, slap yourself hard and think "I can do better than this average ass broad."
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Lol, I'm not a creep!

But thanks for the input
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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The_Reaper said:
It started with us chatting after work for a few minutes, then her seeming a little nervous around me when we were alone, then suddenly - nothing. Interest rapidly decreased. I'm like: what the f*ck.

This is how it works: attraction is created by showing interest, taking it away; two steps forward, one step back.

She has put a spell on me. I hate the lack of control this entails. But when I see her, I just want to plow her. She has an average ass - nothing great at all, but it's the most mesmerising thing at work. When she walks by me, I have to turn my head to gaze at her. I even sometimes wear contacts into work just so I can see her better.

She has no f*cking idea.

We hardly ever talk - I never have an excuse to go over and talk to her.

I'm finishing work very soon - about 3 weeks. And I need to ask for her number, but I don't know how to do it...

The problem is, I think she has ZERO interest now. She emailed me in work a work-related question, and I responded and threw in a "by the way.." and asked her about what college course she did.

That screams friendship. Should have followed up with "By the way, I'm going to this great salsa club tonight. If you are available, would be so kind as to join me?"

She responded, and I asked a follow up question and she didn't respond.

So, I think I just need to slap myself hard and think, meh, so what.

Thoughts?
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You have to have a reason to get the number. Not just get the number to get the number.
 
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No I mean she probably thinks ur a creep.

Quote: "When she walks by me, I have to turn my head to gaze at her. I even sometimes wear contacts into work just so I can see her better."

Thats a bad, non-DJ thing to do man.
 
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I'm in the Mood said:
No I mean she probably thinks ur a creep.

Quote: "When she walks by me, I have to turn my head to gaze at her. I even sometimes wear contacts into work just so I can see her better."

Thats a bad, non-DJ thing to do man.
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Wow, I hope not. She doesn't see me do it!
 
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DonJuan11 said:
You have to have a reason to get the number. Not just get the number to get the number.
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True, thanks. I'll have to come up with something
 
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