"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

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I'm nuts about a girl at work (No AFC)

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It started with us chatting after work for a few minutes, then her seeming a little nervous around me when we were alone, then suddenly - nothing. Interest rapidly decreased. I'm like: what the f*ck.

This is how it works: attraction is created by showing interest, taking it away; two steps forward, one step back.

She has put a spell on me. I hate the lack of control this entails. But when I see her, I just want to plow her. She has an average ass - nothing great at all, but it's the most mesmerising thing at work. When she walks by me, I have to turn my head to gaze at her. I even sometimes wear contacts into work just so I can see her better.

She has no f*cking idea.

We hardly ever talk - I never have an excuse to go over and talk to her.

I'm finishing work very soon - about 3 weeks. And I need to ask for her number, but I don't know how to do it...

The problem is, I think she has ZERO interest now. She emailed me in work a work-related question, and I responded and threw in a "by the way.." and asked her about what college course she did. She responded, and I asked a follow up question and she didn't respond.

So, I think I just need to slap myself hard and think, meh, so what.

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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Well, you might as well go for it. Just ask her out. Nothing to lose, right?
 
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If you think she has zero interest, I highly suggest you give up on her.
With this mindset even if you do approach her, you're gonna seem a little awkward, especially if you just want to fvck her. Honestly, your post protrays yourself as a creepy guy with low to no confidence. This is a losing combination, and I think you do have an AFC attitude about this situation.

Man, slap yourself hard and think "I can do better than this average ass broad."
 
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I'm in the Mood said:
If you think she has zero interest, I highly suggest you give up on her.
With this mindset even if you do approach her, you're gonna seem a little awkward, especially if you just want to fvck her. Honestly, your post protrays yourself as a creepy guy with low to no confidence. This is a losing combination, and I think you do have an AFC attitude about this situation.

Man, slap yourself hard and think "I can do better than this average ass broad."
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Lol, I'm not a creep!

But thanks for the input
 

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The_Reaper said:
It started with us chatting after work for a few minutes, then her seeming a little nervous around me when we were alone, then suddenly - nothing. Interest rapidly decreased. I'm like: what the f*ck.

This is how it works: attraction is created by showing interest, taking it away; two steps forward, one step back.

She has put a spell on me. I hate the lack of control this entails. But when I see her, I just want to plow her. She has an average ass - nothing great at all, but it's the most mesmerising thing at work. When she walks by me, I have to turn my head to gaze at her. I even sometimes wear contacts into work just so I can see her better.

She has no f*cking idea.

We hardly ever talk - I never have an excuse to go over and talk to her.

I'm finishing work very soon - about 3 weeks. And I need to ask for her number, but I don't know how to do it...

The problem is, I think she has ZERO interest now. She emailed me in work a work-related question, and I responded and threw in a "by the way.." and asked her about what college course she did.

That screams friendship. Should have followed up with "By the way, I'm going to this great salsa club tonight. If you are available, would be so kind as to join me?"

She responded, and I asked a follow up question and she didn't respond.

So, I think I just need to slap myself hard and think, meh, so what.

Thoughts?
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You have to have a reason to get the number. Not just get the number to get the number.
 
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No I mean she probably thinks ur a creep.

Quote: "When she walks by me, I have to turn my head to gaze at her. I even sometimes wear contacts into work just so I can see her better."

Thats a bad, non-DJ thing to do man.
 
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I'm in the Mood said:
No I mean she probably thinks ur a creep.

Quote: "When she walks by me, I have to turn my head to gaze at her. I even sometimes wear contacts into work just so I can see her better."

Thats a bad, non-DJ thing to do man.
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Wow, I hope not. She doesn't see me do it!
 
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DonJuan11 said:
You have to have a reason to get the number. Not just get the number to get the number.
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True, thanks. I'll have to come up with something
 
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