"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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So this girl's been blowing up my phone with messages, I'd reply back for a few then stop for the day. I didn't want to have a txt convo, I preferr in person. I thought I would drag out the chase a bit , you know - make her work for it.

The other day our conov went like so:
her: what r u doing?
me: going to the mall to pick up some stuff
her: oh ? when I have to go later today too =P
me: be there in 15 mins, u?
her: 20 minutes, what are you getting
blah blah blah

I know where she lives, so it seems like she left her house right after she got my message. We met up , we flirted a bit, she gave me a ride home. We joked and txted a little more.

2 days later, she seems less interested and replies very slowly (2-3 hours) (it's odd because she used to reply right away). And her texts are no longer jokes, they're more straightforward platonic questions "what are you doing for mothers day?"

I'm wondering what happened? Did I drag out the chase too long? It's only been 2 weeks!
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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over thinking = your own demise.....if she wants you she comes to you, plain and simple
 
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girls are weird like that bro. some days they're more interested and excited, and other days they just play hard to get. I'm pretty sure it's all their little game.

Try playing it and using their own tricks on them!
 
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she is probably really into you...but scared herself with how 'needy' she was being texting you so much, with little response from you. I wouldn't worry about it...if you're into her atleast make sure she knows it before she decides you're NOT into her and moves on.
 
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georgie24 said:
over thinking = your own demise.....if she wants you she comes to you, plain and simple
Click to expand...

bottom line factor.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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True, overthinking is not good in relationships... but it's also the reason why I'm so good at my job.
 
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