"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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chacunsabuisness

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Hi Guys,
Suffice to say I'm new to this forum, but I'm not gonna bore you guys with to much of my story.

There's been this girl who I've been interested in for the past few months, and we've been getting closer and closer over the past few weeks (even though she had a boyfriend) she started to confide in me she wasn't sure about her relationship, and I said to her "so that means your starting to get bored" and she said "yeah but I don't want to sound like a *****," she said she felt like they weren't really going out, that they would just hang around each other and that's it (they wouldn't even hold hands, he never called her, they'd only talk outside of school on Facebook). I told her that she should probably talk to him about it, not to just keep dragging him along if she wasn't interested, she said she would talk to him. The next day she comes and tells me she spoke to him and they were 'taking a break'
The next week we had work experience and I called her on around Tuesday and we spoke for a good 4 - 5 hours, I went through my credit, she went through hers, and the conversation would have still held out if it wasn't for her home phone batteries dying. She sent me a text, and we met up the next day in town when she was finished. On the phone she was telling me I would be the best boyfriend, that she could tell by the way I talked, I was different from other guys, it was refreshing etc. The whole conversation was flirty, and I got her to wear a blue clip in her hair for me the next day when we met up. The thing is for the past few weeks we've been talking a lot like that, and it feels like theres a lot of chemistry going on between us, but theres just this other guy in the way and shes all confused.
Back to present, so this guy is dumped, but she still sort of likes him, and we've been talking a little less. The thing is there's this other friend of mine, who I'm pretty tight with, and he's been becoming better and better friends with her lately, and its complicating the situation. He seems to be talking to her more than I am as of late and her interest seems to have dropped a little and is leaning towards him. I've had a lot of personal sh*t going on for the past 5 months, and its been taking a toll on my confidence, but I need to be able to regain her interest. I feel like I've written a lot of sh*t but any help would be appreciated.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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apocolipto

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You said the chemistry is there,Why didn't you do something?
Ask her on a date? Get it over with.Make it fun and memorable.Kiss her.Done.

If it didn't work out like that,You NEXT her.

Easy formula.

Apoco
 

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Sounds like you've been stealthily friendzoned. I don't know a lot but I know never to talk to girls about boyfriends
 

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This whole post has one commone theme throughout: It's REACTIONARY. You're not leading and you're waiting for her permission to make any moves. Assume she likes you. All you have to do is kiss her (fast), how you go about it is up to you.
 

apocolipto

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Seems all noobs start in the same situations,weird.

I've been there,litteraly the other day.

Progress feels great.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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apocolipto said:
Seems all noobs start in the same situations,weird.

I've been there,litteraly the other day.

Progress feels great.
I agree but all these situations are "complicated" because
someone is to scared to do something and/or is attached to the girl

You can either make what you want happen or you can just say **** it and leave.
 

apocolipto

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Yes,that's why we are here.To do something about it.Even if you fail with a girl,you actually succeed,because of the experience you got.

Win-win
 
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