Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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I'm new to SS, I would like to know how I handled this....

movistar

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Mauser96 said:
Holy Batman, I am in bold

I'm I'm a very similar situation but the girl still likes to meet up and have sex etc. it has gone from being us hanging out Friday and Saturday to her always being out on those nights. I'll b@ng her a few times a week on a good week maybe once on a bad one. She also helps me out a lot, offered to help paint my house etc, but definitely not wanting to be in a relationship.
Do you just cut and run in this situation? My feelings are in it but I'm trying to be aloof, I never discuss relationship etc
She will hit me up to hang, so it's not just me making an effort to hang, but I just have that feeling she would much rather be "out with friends"
Don't mean to hijack thread but saw some things that applied to me.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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movistar said:
I'm I'm a very similar situation but the girl still likes to meet up and have sex etc. it has gone from being us hanging out Friday and Saturday to her always being out on those nights. I'll b@ng her a few times a week on a good week maybe once on a bad one. She also helps me out a lot, offered to help paint my house etc, but definitely not wanting to be in a relationship.
Do you just cut and run in this situation? My feelings are in it but I'm trying to be aloof, I never discuss relationship etc
She will hit me up to hang, so it's not just me making an effort to hang, but I just have that feeling she would much rather be "out with friends"
Don't mean to hijack thread but saw some things that applied to me.

perfect!
now your next step: look for a few more girls like that and build yourself a nice set of plates to spin.

do this to avoid getting oneitis for that one girl. for most us what youhave there is a damn good deal so dont fvck up
 

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movistar said:
Don't mean to hijack thread but saw some things that applied to me.
You didn't hijack anything. This thread is almost two years old!
 

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The thread is as old as the relationship because once I had her I had no need for advice, just kept reading. Anyway, just to update.....I was drunk when I was talking on here last and I chose to delete her number and went Ganji on her. Only when I hear her say what I want to hear will I answer, if she ever contacts me again. She will have to jump through hoops anyway, If not her loss. Already got another girl interested so all is good. BOOM GANJI.
 

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I feel like I'm going facking crazy over this ****. I feel like I have to burn the bridge instead of just going NC. I feel like the only way is to just give it to her and sack it off, to clear my mind. Then I think it will only push her away, what's left. Then I think NC will show I don't care. I'm facked either way. Oneitis bad...
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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some women do this as they are stupid. and highly indecisive.

just go with the flow and if she doesnt want to meet on sunday either then Fck it.

Find someone else.
 
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