"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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I'm new to SS, I would like to know how I handled this....

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Mauser96 said:
Holy Batman, I am in bold
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I'm I'm a very similar situation but the girl still likes to meet up and have sex etc. it has gone from being us hanging out Friday and Saturday to her always being out on those nights. I'll b@ng her a few times a week on a good week maybe once on a bad one. She also helps me out a lot, offered to help paint my house etc, but definitely not wanting to be in a relationship.
Do you just cut and run in this situation? My feelings are in it but I'm trying to be aloof, I never discuss relationship etc
She will hit me up to hang, so it's not just me making an effort to hang, but I just have that feeling she would much rather be "out with friends"
Don't mean to hijack thread but saw some things that applied to me.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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movistar said:
I'm I'm a very similar situation but the girl still likes to meet up and have sex etc. it has gone from being us hanging out Friday and Saturday to her always being out on those nights. I'll b@ng her a few times a week on a good week maybe once on a bad one. She also helps me out a lot, offered to help paint my house etc, but definitely not wanting to be in a relationship.
Do you just cut and run in this situation? My feelings are in it but I'm trying to be aloof, I never discuss relationship etc
She will hit me up to hang, so it's not just me making an effort to hang, but I just have that feeling she would much rather be "out with friends"
Don't mean to hijack thread but saw some things that applied to me.
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perfect!
now your next step: look for a few more girls like that and build yourself a nice set of plates to spin.

do this to avoid getting oneitis for that one girl. for most us what youhave there is a damn good deal so dont fvck up
 
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movistar said:
Don't mean to hijack thread but saw some things that applied to me.
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You didn't hijack anything. This thread is almost two years old!
 
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The thread is as old as the relationship because once I had her I had no need for advice, just kept reading. Anyway, just to update.....I was drunk when I was talking on here last and I chose to delete her number and went Ganji on her. Only when I hear her say what I want to hear will I answer, if she ever contacts me again. She will have to jump through hoops anyway, If not her loss. Already got another girl interested so all is good. BOOM GANJI.
 
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I feel like I'm going facking crazy over this ****. I feel like I have to burn the bridge instead of just going NC. I feel like the only way is to just give it to her and sack it off, to clear my mind. Then I think it will only push her away, what's left. Then I think NC will show I don't care. I'm facked either way. Oneitis bad...
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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some women do this as they are stupid. and highly indecisive.

just go with the flow and if she doesnt want to meet on sunday either then Fck it.

Find someone else.
 
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