"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Hi, i just joined this board but ive been reading it for a few weeks. I'm 17 and very inexperienced when it comes to girls. I'm a loner who talks very rerely and only to a select few people. I guess i just stopped talking because people were never really too accepting of me. I'm not a loser but im not cool eather.

Anyway a few months ago, i noticed this girl that kept looking at me(in a good way i guess)durring the few moments we saw eachother in the hallway. This eye contact lasted about 2 seconds and was very frequent. Then after some time she started avoiding my eyes completely. Now when i see her she looks at me and quickly stares away only to look back after a half a second.

She is not popular or anything, she hangs out with the drama kids. I havent talked to her yet because im just not confident enough. Im not experienced in these things so im asking for any advice or experience you guys had with eye contact. Could this eye contact be a sign of interest?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Could be......keep reading.;)
 

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Yes. And the fact she ceised making long eye contacts, most likely, means she is disapointed with the fact you did not initate any convos or make any move. She gave up. But it is never to late.

I know how you feel. I am exactly like you -- with one difference, I overcame it. So I know what I'm talking about.

To cut this short -- i have to go -- say HI next time you see her. And ask her something. A questions. If she is any of your classes, ask her if she can help you during lunch or something.

Argh, I will respond in further detail later. or PM me for a rush response. GTG sorry
 

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Thx for the info. I look forward to your further explanation.
 

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Read my thread: Fitch's Inner Revolution.

The same concept should apply to you. Be yourself. Do not be intidated --

I have 3 tests tomorrow, so yet again -- I shall continue at another time.

The basic thing is be yourself. Take action into your own hands. She is interested. She "gave up" because you did nothing. However, you should revitalize her interest in you. TALK TO HER. Take the first step; DO IT.

Start with a Hi. You will see how easy it is once you begin...
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Your story is very good. I also like to write and draw about battles and stuff like that. Only in my head i fight but perish in the end. I guess that is the whole mental reflection of what i think of myself right now. You got some skills as a writer though. The last sentince where the eagle is flying over the battlefield is worthy enough to be a quote.
 

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Thank you. As I begin to write my story -- I will post exerpts of it.

Any suggestions for the story?
 

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haha I'm basically the same person you are but just 2 years younger. Maybe she's interested in you, go talk to her, you never know.
 

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just try to find a way to initiate a small convo or maybe just a little word exchange it will do wonders. get her laughin but dont be obnoxious or cheesy.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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