"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Hi, i just joined this board but ive been reading it for a few weeks. I'm 17 and very inexperienced when it comes to girls. I'm a loner who talks very rerely and only to a select few people. I guess i just stopped talking because people were never really too accepting of me. I'm not a loser but im not cool eather.

Anyway a few months ago, i noticed this girl that kept looking at me(in a good way i guess)durring the few moments we saw eachother in the hallway. This eye contact lasted about 2 seconds and was very frequent. Then after some time she started avoiding my eyes completely. Now when i see her she looks at me and quickly stares away only to look back after a half a second.

She is not popular or anything, she hangs out with the drama kids. I havent talked to her yet because im just not confident enough. Im not experienced in these things so im asking for any advice or experience you guys had with eye contact. Could this eye contact be a sign of interest?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Could be......keep reading.;)
 

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Yes. And the fact she ceised making long eye contacts, most likely, means she is disapointed with the fact you did not initate any convos or make any move. She gave up. But it is never to late.

I know how you feel. I am exactly like you -- with one difference, I overcame it. So I know what I'm talking about.

To cut this short -- i have to go -- say HI next time you see her. And ask her something. A questions. If she is any of your classes, ask her if she can help you during lunch or something.

Argh, I will respond in further detail later. or PM me for a rush response. GTG sorry
 

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Thx for the info. I look forward to your further explanation.
 

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Read my thread: Fitch's Inner Revolution.

The same concept should apply to you. Be yourself. Do not be intidated --

I have 3 tests tomorrow, so yet again -- I shall continue at another time.

The basic thing is be yourself. Take action into your own hands. She is interested. She "gave up" because you did nothing. However, you should revitalize her interest in you. TALK TO HER. Take the first step; DO IT.

Start with a Hi. You will see how easy it is once you begin...
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Your story is very good. I also like to write and draw about battles and stuff like that. Only in my head i fight but perish in the end. I guess that is the whole mental reflection of what i think of myself right now. You got some skills as a writer though. The last sentince where the eagle is flying over the battlefield is worthy enough to be a quote.
 

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Thank you. As I begin to write my story -- I will post exerpts of it.

Any suggestions for the story?
 

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haha I'm basically the same person you are but just 2 years younger. Maybe she's interested in you, go talk to her, you never know.
 

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just try to find a way to initiate a small convo or maybe just a little word exchange it will do wonders. get her laughin but dont be obnoxious or cheesy.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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