"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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I'm new and confused (and my introduction)

Asteconn

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Hello Gents,

This is my frist pots! =D

But I'm mightily confused by the lingo that you use here.

"LJBF"?
"A 9"?
"AFC"?

Can someone enlighten me please?

Edit: Well - I thought I'd offer a proper introduction:

I'm an AFC. I'll make no pretences about being otherwise. Lost my V plates at 20, longest relationship of any substance being 3 months. I've even driven 150 miles to get stood up on Valentine's Day.

I downloaded 'the book of pook' from another (unrelated to this) forum - the guy said it had helped him tonnes. So I sat down and read it over the course of a week or so. Then I realised. OMFG! I'm one of these 'Nice Guys' that were derided so much.

So, the first thing I did after that - I got a Gym membership, and started going at least twice a week (going again later tonight) - to get into shape. I have some weights at home that I'm actually using now too. Hopefully as I get into better shape my confidence will improve to the level where I'm actually making some worthwhile moves on attractive young ladies and succeeding!
 
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Hey man, welcome to the forum,
LJBF stands for "Let's Just be Friends" and,
AFC for "Average Frustrated Chump"

Cheers
 

Asteconn

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Daniel1982 said:
Hey man, welcome to the forum,
LJBF stands for "Let's Just be Friends" and,
AFC for "Average Frustrated Chump"

Cheers
Thank you Daniel

Knowing what AFC means clarifies a lot!
 
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