Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
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Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
You aren't thinking this correctly. Trust me, you can be a lot better then you are right now. You are pessimistic and haven't yet realized how great you can be. You got to change your diet first, then stop smoking cigarettes\marijuana if you are, don't drink booze, you got to bring your mood up too, start relaxing more, take yoga classes or watch comedy or something, if you do these things you will be able to sleep better at night and it's all uphill from there. Take some supplements if you must. Don't whack off more then once in a day, in your recovery time you can do it once a week until you start feeling better and when your body gets stronger (better attitude, happier, etc) you can do it more frequently, but come back slowly. Stop watching porn too (well, at least for now, but I am gonna stop for a long time).gspshields2 said: