I'm losin it man

[wipz]

I've been around here for quite some time now but never really felt the need to post anything, but now I ran into a bit of a problem. I'm in this sort of slump... Its been goin on for close to a month. I don't know how to describe it really. I've had all the confidence in the world, walkin around like I have 30 girls waitin for me at home.. I never really had any troubles meeting girls in the past two years since I stumbled upon this lovely place.

Well now when I'm talkin to a new lady friend I haven't been doin things right. It's mainly w/ my conversing. I've been hesitating to say things and when I do it's usually something stupid. I've been having trouble getting a good coversation started and when I do, again, it's something stupid like a damn afc starter. Even when I do have some good smart ass thing to say I'll completely screw up the timing or say it in the wrong tone.

Hell Ive been rereading practically everything here and still am running into the same damn problems. If anyone could help me out here and give me some advice or find a good thread already dealing w/ this it would kick ass.

 

[KiInCollege]

It sounds like you've read enough, but don't have enough practice. The details you complained about hint that you don't have practice or get uncomfortable when talking. If you ever say anything that comes out awkward, that's a display of insecurity, not confidence.

Just keep honing your convo skills. Consider a public speaking course if you're in school.

 

[wipz]

Naw man I have enough practice. I've been meeting close to a dozen new girls a month for the past two years. It might be a little insecurity but its like some major bs thing occured recently... only thing i would be getting more insecure and less confident is because im not my usual self. Its frusterating too man cause I dont know what the hell to do... it also may have gotten me to try too hard. I gave it a few days rest last week too and that didnt seem to do too much.

 

[PuertoRican_Lover]

You are not a 'talker' and you are trying to force convo!! Some guys don't have the convo skills to keep a woman interested. There is nothing an internet site can do to resolve this!! Be yourself and quit trying to impress!

 

[So Many Ways]

I feel you.

At the beginning of the year, I got off to a good start and met a few women. Lately it seems to have gotten a little more difficult and it seems like I have to work a lot harder just to get a nibble. I don't know why it happens. Sometimes it's really easy and sometimes nothing happens for weeks on end. I haven't gotten as much as a phone number in 3 weeks.

It's annoying but like what was said earlier it just means more practice.

Question to PuertoRican_Lover: How do you improve convo skills? I've gotten a lot better at the body language aspect, but I have the same trouble when it comes to conversation. Even though I've approached tons of women, the conversation doesn't always seem natural. How can one get past this?

 

[wipz]

Thats where im gettin at man. Im trying too hard, Im not bein myself. Hell Ive got the skills but recently man things havent been goin so smoothly.