I could use some serious help... Been a while since I've been on this site and I'm currently having some major problems. I've been going through a quarter life crisis for some time now and to add to this issue I've never been laid... or at least not yet. I already feel like I missed out on so much. I'm beginning to feel like a such hopeless case and on the verge of giving up. Women just seem so impossible and out of reach. I'm beginning to think I just don't have what it takes and always considered myself unworthy of it. I want sex really bad and I have no connections to women at all. I barely have any friends and none of them are female. When I try to make a female friend they automatically assume I'm out to get in their pants even when I'm not. I've tried talking to girls online to hook up and exhausted all the posibilites. In fact it made me hate the internet. I wanted to join a local lair and they expect you to do some cold approaches and I'm unable to get through that due to extreme fear and anxiety. I really don't know where to begin anymore... my self esteem hit rock bottom and it's been that way for nearly a year now. In fact I'm depressed. I really want to make a change in my life but I don't know where to begin. Sometimes I just feel like paying a hooker to get it over with.
“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”
Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.
I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.
Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules. Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.
I'm like totally confused and ****ed up in the head. C
- Thread starter C-quenced
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"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Next time you catch yourself thinking like this, stop it. Thinking negatively will only bring you down more.C-quenced said:
Don't try to make friends with them, you need to come off as lover material from the start.
You need to disarm them at the start. Start talking about something. Ask them questions. Don't hide your sexuality, and don't be awkward about it like most other guys.
Slow steps. Doing the DJ Boot Camp would help you.
Basically, go out and say hi to everyone you walk past. Do that 70 or so times over the week. Then start conversations with women, attractive and otherwise, old and young.
How to do that? Comment on something. Is she carrying 2 dozen bananas? Make a funny comment on them, and ask her. If you don't know what to say, just ask for her opinion on something sincere.
That builds confidence. Practice will make you perfect.
No cheating.
It won't help you at all.
hey man, it sounddsl ike you just need some more practice. look on the bright side: at least you arent getting put into the friend zone, so you must be giving off some sort of sexual vibe. eventually a girl will like it and reciprocate. ilike the other posters said, try to spur up some convos on the street or take up a new hobby
Next time you catch yourself thinking like this, stop it. Thinking negatively will only bring you down more.
I'm really bad at controlling my thoughts and/or stopping them. I tried meditation and it seems to help some in many parts of life. I guess I just need to work on it a little bit more.
Don't try to make friends with them, you need to come off as lover material from the start.
You need to disarm them at the start. Start talking about something. Ask them questions. Don't hide your sexuality, and don't be awkward about it like most other guys.
Something I need to work on. I have no confidence in myself at all. I think so lowly of myself.
Slow steps. Doing the DJ Boot Camp would help you.
Basically, go out and say hi to everyone you walk past. Do that 70 or so times over the week. Then start conversations with women, attractive and otherwise, old and young.
How to do that? Comment on something. Is she carrying 2 dozen bananas? Make a funny comment on them, and ask her. If you don't know what to say, just ask for her opinion on something sincere.
That builds confidence. Practice will make you perfect.
I'll work on it. Sometimes when I try to be friendly to people I feel like I give off wierd vibes.
No cheating.
It won't help you at all.
Speaking of hookers I picked one up tonight and nearly got myself robbed/killed. She had me pull into a dark gated motel with these like 10 f*cking goons and the second I saw them I just reversed my car the hell out of there. She looked surprised and asked where we were going? According to her the motel was where she lived. I talked her into believe that I needed to get to the ATM machine and eventually told her I was trying to look out for the two of us. She played it off like those guys were a bunch of nobodies and made fun of the way I pulled out of there but I can sense deciet. The more I kept trying to avoid that place the more pissed off she became. Eventually she said we'll go somewhere else but she needed 60 bucks to pay her rent... she said those guys don't stay there very long so we went back (very stupid of me). I told her ok.... then go pay your rent and lets leave, and then she said she needed the money first. I told her no and she's gotten even more pissed and left. That was the end of it. I wasn't trying to start trouble with anyone. I wish I had the chance of day to grab those thugs by their nasty dreadlocks and beating them half way to death with my fists. But damn getting some action is DIFFICULT. Feels impossible. Too bad the hooker was pretty hot too.
hey man, it sounddsl ike you just need some more practice. look on the bright side: at least you arent getting put into the friend zone, so you must be giving off some sort of sexual vibe. eventually a girl will like it and reciprocate. ilike the other posters said, try to spur up some convos on the street or take up a new hobby
I though about that but then I thought maybe it was just my ego trying to keep me from the harsh reality of things.
I'm really bad at controlling my thoughts and/or stopping them. I tried meditation and it seems to help some in many parts of life. I guess I just need to work on it a little bit more.
Don't try to make friends with them, you need to come off as lover material from the start.
You need to disarm them at the start. Start talking about something. Ask them questions. Don't hide your sexuality, and don't be awkward about it like most other guys.
Something I need to work on. I have no confidence in myself at all. I think so lowly of myself.
Slow steps. Doing the DJ Boot Camp would help you.
Basically, go out and say hi to everyone you walk past. Do that 70 or so times over the week. Then start conversations with women, attractive and otherwise, old and young.
How to do that? Comment on something. Is she carrying 2 dozen bananas? Make a funny comment on them, and ask her. If you don't know what to say, just ask for her opinion on something sincere.
That builds confidence. Practice will make you perfect.
I'll work on it. Sometimes when I try to be friendly to people I feel like I give off wierd vibes.
No cheating.
It won't help you at all.
Speaking of hookers I picked one up tonight and nearly got myself robbed/killed. She had me pull into a dark gated motel with these like 10 f*cking goons and the second I saw them I just reversed my car the hell out of there. She looked surprised and asked where we were going? According to her the motel was where she lived. I talked her into believe that I needed to get to the ATM machine and eventually told her I was trying to look out for the two of us. She played it off like those guys were a bunch of nobodies and made fun of the way I pulled out of there but I can sense deciet. The more I kept trying to avoid that place the more pissed off she became. Eventually she said we'll go somewhere else but she needed 60 bucks to pay her rent... she said those guys don't stay there very long so we went back (very stupid of me). I told her ok.... then go pay your rent and lets leave, and then she said she needed the money first. I told her no and she's gotten even more pissed and left. That was the end of it. I wasn't trying to start trouble with anyone. I wish I had the chance of day to grab those thugs by their nasty dreadlocks and beating them half way to death with my fists. But damn getting some action is DIFFICULT. Feels impossible. Too bad the hooker was pretty hot too.
hey man, it sounddsl ike you just need some more practice. look on the bright side: at least you arent getting put into the friend zone, so you must be giving off some sort of sexual vibe. eventually a girl will like it and reciprocate. ilike the other posters said, try to spur up some convos on the street or take up a new hobby
I though about that but then I thought maybe it was just my ego trying to keep me from the harsh reality of things.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
omkara
Senior Don Juan
no way dude... it will help you to get your mind off of girls and find contentment without them, both of which will make you more attractive to them. Girls are like cats. As soon as you try to sit down and concentrate on something other than them, they want to try to get in between you and what you're concentrating on to distract you.C-quenced said:
I'm not really qualified to give advice, but it's been said many times around here and focusing on developing my own life apart from girls has helped me to not care about them, which has made them more attracted to me.