"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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I'm insecure about my chest, but me and my girl are going to Six Flags...

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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One nut.. damn hows that even possible? Did he tell you the reason for it?

The dudes definitly got some balls for coming out like that though.
 
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Balla,

Honestly, that does not look too bad. Because the rest of your body is well built it just makes it look like the gyno is part of your pec muscle.

Show me some profiles (from the side) without flexing so I can see wha that looks like.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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I have the same thing, and until I can get around to surgery this winter, I go with a tight wife beater under shirts that are more fitting and I try to avoid going shirtless when I can.

I am not fat though, and I know plenty of guys who have considerable bellies and hot girls. A big gut is more noticeable than the man boob thing, though its also more frustrating cause we cant do a lick of good about it through anything but surgery, in many cases.

It may hurt your efforts to pick up girls in that environment, but someone who likes you won't be repelled by what you showed us. I have it worse than that and I have never had a girl who saw it the first time mention anything. I have had passing, behind my back comments from girls I don't know, but none from anyone I even remotely was involved with.
 
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Um. I would seriously not worry about that.

Everyone has some **** that's slightly cosmetically wrong with them. My current girlfriend, when we started seeing/hooking up w/each other, was under the impression that I was pretty well-built, and I am...

But, I'm a really inconsistent lifter. I'll go 3 months lifting and then life will catch up to me and I'll find enough excuses to take a month or so off, so I balloon up and down pretty often. Being relatively pale, this causes me to get some pretty visible stretch marks on my inner arms and especially my inner thighs.

Point of the story is this: I could have been worried about how those nasty things that I'm relatively self-concious about could possibly affect her perception of me and push her away. Well, I manned up, fooled around with her, got naked, got her naked, plugged her 'giner, and honestly... she didn't seem to mind the marks too much.
 
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Sorry to go off topic, but the flaw I sorta worry about also is stretch marks on my biceps and shoulder area from lifting weights.

Glad to here it's not a big problem with your girl.
 
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Originally posted by Balla_Baby_69
I have been bodybuilding for about 4 years now. I'm 18. I look good, but I have gyno in my chest. Bascially, it's breast tissue that makes it look like I have '***** tits.' I'm getting surgery to remove it (it's the only way to get rid of it. 50% of males develop it during puberty and for most people it goes away on its own and if it doesn't the only way to rid yourself of it is surgery. can't lose it by exercising or anything...).

Anyway, when I have on a shirt or a wife-beater you can't really notice it at all. And the rest of my body shows off my 4 years of work. Anyway, I'm really insecure bout my chest and haven't let anyone (except for one of my bestest friends) see me shirtless for the past 5 years, even my mom!

Anyway, I'm going to Six Flags this Monday with my girl. Just her and me. We've been dating for about 6 weeks. And she likes to swim so I'm guessing she's going to want to go into the waterpark, but she probably won't unless I do too. She knows a little bit about my chest and she said she thinks its kinda sexy that I admit it (whatever that means) and that she couldn't notice it (but she still ain't seen me shirtless)....

I was thinking that if I go swimming I could just wear a wife-beater and everything would be cool, but my friend said "you can't wear a wifebeater! only fat people wear wifebeaters to the pool!"

So, what should I do if swimming comes up at the park? Should I take my shirt off for the first time in public and possibly embarass myself? Or should I wear a wifebeater and possibly embarass myself :p. Or should I just refuse to go swimming?
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dude....youve been bodybuilding for 4 years....GET OFF THE JUICE!!! thats whats causing it. why dont you just admit it??
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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^^^^I'm 18 and 5 foot 6. There's NO WAY I would ever use steroids. For one, I haven't even touched them for the last 4 years cus they stunt your growth and I'm trying to milk whatever heigh life has to give me. Second, since a side effect of steroids is gyno, I know they would just make my condition worse.
 
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Originally posted by Balla_Baby_69
cus they stunt your growth
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So does body building at 14 years old.

BrWnSugaMan is right: It just looks like part of your pec muscle.
 
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^^^That's a myth.

BUT, it doesn't matter now. Morgan couldn't go last minute cus her mom changed her mind all of a sudden cus she doesn't like the idea of me being alone with morgan all day. What the hell can I do at an amusement park? :rolleyes: :down:
 
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Its really not that bad at all to tell you the truth.

I have never seen an indian bodybuilder before.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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R u fukcing serious?

hahahaha, dude, u can hardly even notice anything! Infact I dont notice anything wrong! You seriously gotta sort this out in your own head! I seen some way more fukced up titties than that, and the guys dont give a fukc, plus pick up some stunners too!
 
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