"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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I'm in love with a girl that has a boyfriend.

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There is this girl i have been in love with for nearly 4 years amd i cant stop thinking about her every second of everyday i know she is the one. I dont find any other girl attractive i only have eyes for her and would do anything for her.

We are very close we text each other every single day and can talk for hours and whenever we do she makes me so happy and i think she does like me But she has a boyfriend who she has been with a year and they always argue they never go a week without arguing but they always somehow make up.

He treats her like sh*t and it breaks my heart seeing her sad as she deserves much better. I can never get to sleep as i am always thinking about her and become depressed as she has a boyfriend and i just want to look after her and let her show her i love her.

She knows i like her but not that i love her this much and i just dont know what to do as i feel i will never get over this girl as she is truly the one for me.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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cfdagola

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i'm curious for scientific purposes what would happen if you just all the sudden went no contact on this chick.

I mean she may legit confess her feelings if you guys have truly talked non stop everyday for 4 years.

inquiring minds would like to know.
 

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i feel your pain dude. but ask yourself if you really believe you can have this girl...the answer is you dont. otherwise you would be showing her your affection. man up and lay it on her.
 

foreverAFC

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you are the shoulder to cry on after the guy she is actually fcking makes her sad, you are filling the role of the gay friend who she discusses her relationship problems with
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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These topics lately have been really soft. What the Hell is going on?! This is sickening.

Your in love with a girl that's already taken? Out of all the girls in the world. You just have to have one that's in a relationship with someone else?

*facepalm*
 

expos

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Assuming this is not the world's lamest troll....

If you were to tell her your feelings towards her, one of two things will happen..

1. She dumps the guy and goes out with you. You will be a temporary boyfriend until she becomes obsessed with someone more manly than you and then you are out of luck again...or work yourself into beta orbiter status. Then, you'll come back here crying and will be forced to taking the red pill.

2. She get's extremely uncomfortable when you tell her your feelings and you lose a friendship and a sexual relationship.
 

Thorninmyside

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There are 3 billion+ other women. Start ruling them out one at a time now.

Hear me now, believe me later: this girl is just another one.
 

jimmy18

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The OP is the equivalent of a begger on the street asking strangers for $1.

Even if we could give him the $1 he craves and needs RIGHT NOW, we can instead do something that is exponentially better for his long-term growth: teach him (metaphorically) how to make $1 million.

He can start by reading the DJ Bible and the Book of Pook
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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