"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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I'm in a tough spot

Fly By Night

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I got two plates, one of them I like more than the other, but she does not really show she likes me back. We've had sex and she has never really cancelled on a date with me. I would say she's interested, but she will not show it.

However, the second one shows me more attention that I could ask for, asks me out to places and shows me that she is clearly interested in me.

The first girl then starts putting things on FB, saying that she doesn't want to be someone's option, and she wants to leave them, not in text, but in a picture. I already made up in my mind that I don't like the second girl enough for a relationship, but the first one was definitely a girl I would take for a relationship... If she was a little more forward with her interest in me. She's really submissive and I take it that she wants me to make all the moves for her, and I'm okay with that.

I scheduled a date with the first girl on valentines day and hopefully she doesn't cancel. You guys all say that the girl should ask for a relationship, but it doesn't fit her personality to make the move first. I'm thinking, should I make "the talk" with her about where our relationship is going? It goes against the "Great Catch" persona, but I know we will never get to that point if I keep waiting for her to make that move first. And if I keep seeing other women, she'll eventually leave.


Honestly, I do feel a little case of oneitis by starting this conversation with her so tell it to me straight. Do I go through with this or do I just cut my losses if worse comes to worst?

I'd like to thank SS because I probably would not have her to begin with without the help here.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Greasy Pig

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This is a tough one. The rules states that you should always wait for her to have "the talk".
I've only had "the talk" three times and it was always initiated by the girl.
I think initiating the talk with a girl who's only showing mild interest could be disastrous.
 

ghostridur

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shes interested obviously. and if shes waiting for u to make a move, then thats what it is. do it. youll be happy.
 
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