"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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I'm in a tough spot

Fly By Night

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I got two plates, one of them I like more than the other, but she does not really show she likes me back. We've had sex and she has never really cancelled on a date with me. I would say she's interested, but she will not show it.

However, the second one shows me more attention that I could ask for, asks me out to places and shows me that she is clearly interested in me.

The first girl then starts putting things on FB, saying that she doesn't want to be someone's option, and she wants to leave them, not in text, but in a picture. I already made up in my mind that I don't like the second girl enough for a relationship, but the first one was definitely a girl I would take for a relationship... If she was a little more forward with her interest in me. She's really submissive and I take it that she wants me to make all the moves for her, and I'm okay with that.

I scheduled a date with the first girl on valentines day and hopefully she doesn't cancel. You guys all say that the girl should ask for a relationship, but it doesn't fit her personality to make the move first. I'm thinking, should I make "the talk" with her about where our relationship is going? It goes against the "Great Catch" persona, but I know we will never get to that point if I keep waiting for her to make that move first. And if I keep seeing other women, she'll eventually leave.


Honestly, I do feel a little case of oneitis by starting this conversation with her so tell it to me straight. Do I go through with this or do I just cut my losses if worse comes to worst?

I'd like to thank SS because I probably would not have her to begin with without the help here.
 

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I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

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Greasy Pig

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This is a tough one. The rules states that you should always wait for her to have "the talk".
I've only had "the talk" three times and it was always initiated by the girl.
I think initiating the talk with a girl who's only showing mild interest could be disastrous.
 

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shes interested obviously. and if shes waiting for u to make a move, then thats what it is. do it. youll be happy.
 
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