I'm Hot But Too Nervous To Do Anything About It

[kody_starr]

Girls are going crazy around me. They are staring at me, circling around me, waving to me, just doing crazy stuff. Occasionally they follow me.

I just can't bring myself to talk to them. In my mind, I'm thinking: 'what's this wacky girl I've never seen before doing?' Why is she waving at me, or smiling at me, or breathing hard around me?

How do I unlock myself to make these girls happy?

 

[cola]

Well,
How is your sex drive?
I wouldn't think I wonder why this wacky girl is waving..
Id think to myself I wonder how this wacky girls oral sex is..
That helps a lot.

In all seriousness its mostly a repetition thing..
Were you a ugly duckling? Not attractive when younger and kind of swanned as you got older? I was like that.. accept your hotness and understand these girls want to get to know you and maybe have sex with you..

 

[stonetowers]

Well remember,the overall goal is not to make them happy,but for them to make you happy.(After all you are the prize).Find the one in the group who meets your standards the most,approach her,and don't think so hard about saying the perfect thing.Ask her about her what she's wearing or ask her to dance.And if none of the interest you don't bother with any of them.

 

[cola]

Well remember,the overall goal is not to make them happy,but for them to make you happy.(After all you are the prize).Find the one in the group who meets your standards the most,approach her,and don't think so hard about saying the perfect thing.Ask her about her what she's wearing or ask her to dance.And if none of the interest you don't bother with any of them.

Terrible advice..

1. You are indeed the prize but when you tell people that initially they start being a douche..
The last thing we need in the world is another douche.
2. A beginner should never approach sets. When girls get in groups they get uber confident and will crush you if you seem nervous or akward..
Sets are for naturals and large groups of males..
Besides sets rarely pay off

 

[stonetowers]

Terrible advice..

1. You are indeed the prize but when you tell people that initially they start being a douche.

I never said for him to tell people that.I just said he needed to believe in himself and the rest would follow.

 

[FairShake]

Try. Fail.
Try. Fail.
Try. Fail.
(ad nauseam)
Try. Succeed.

Get used to and ok with failure.

 

[Kevin Feng]

Okay, I'm guessing you're a pretty good looking guy if girls are responding like this around you.

Consider it a gift, I mean, I'm not an ugly guy by any standard but on the same token, I don't have women flocking all over me. Don't waste this "gift" of yours.

For a guy like you, solid game won't even be necessary in closing girls out.

I remember one of my good friends in college, they would actually isolate themselves in his seduction location, all he had to do is just go for the kill.

As a matter of fact, one girl did, she was about a solid 8, she went up and did all the work.

Anyways, for a guy like you, just stick to the basics, literally all you need to do is ask the girl on a date and just kiss her at the end, like in the movies.

I'm sure you could get away with some of the most AFC stuff, if you're nervous, honestly, just get over it, you're never going to get anywhere if you're stuck in your own comfort zone.

 

[Lexington]

Try. Fail.
Try. Fail.
Try. Fail.
(ad nauseam)
Try. Succeed.

Get used to and ok with failure.

This is the most effective strategy. I tried all kinds of shortcuts in the past, but they're simply not as effective as learning by doing. Just keep on trying. At first it will be terrifying and scary to do approaches, but after you've done a few, the fear will disappear. Just muster up some courage and go for it. That's all there is to it.

Confidence comes through experience. How can you be confident about something you've never done? Were you confident in your ability to drive the first time you got behind the wheel? Of course not. Chances are, you sucked at it initially. But you just kept at it and now you driving is an almost entirely subconscious process for you.

 

[ElStud]

It's not that hard, talk man. But really it depends on... what do YOU want to happen? What do YOU want to talk about? Where are YOU trying to get? Work off that and you'll be fine. If you want to talk to them, talk to them, it doesn't matter what you say. BOOHOO you said something that offended or weirded the girl out, grow up, there'll be other girls man.

You have to realize this, that everytime a girl doesn't want to talk to you, it doesn't always have to do with you. You have to realize that yes, some woman are just weird, no matter how hot they are. Not all woman are like that, but yes some girls are just weird like that. If she thinks something you did was weird, frame it as "What's wrong with you?". If you lose the girl, you lose the girls. There are millions of girls out there, no reason for staying on one if she's not interested.

In the end, you shouldn't worry about if what you're saying works or not, just talk and try to have a fun convo with her.

 

[kody_starr]

Actually, as far as looks, I've probably gained about 15-20 lbs. So, yeah, I'm actually a little flabby around the midsection compared to where I used to be. But still, girls have a strong reaction to me, although not as strong as before.