"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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I'm having problems getting used to the new me

Brighty

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The old me: Junior in HS, awkward, medicore, not really having a passion or goal, just breezing by in life making medicore grades


The new me: Senior in HS, confident, new haircut and fresh clothes (attractive), a successful independent film maker (happened over the summer), grabbing life by the balls and not afraid to shake the waters.

The only problem is that I'm still afraid to talk to girls from my high school. Talking to girls I didn't know when I was awkward as a junior and below goes over fine and I can pull it off awesomely, but its the girls that I've known since then that I'm having trouble conversing to. At parties I can't seem to bring myself to talk to them because I'm afraid I'll come across as a creeper (because I was so awkward last year and the year before, etc) and I feel like they're always judging me.

Are they still holding resentment to me since last year since I was so awkward (and kind of a **** to some of guy friends that hang out with the hot girls)? I feel like they are. It's this feeling that makes me still remain awkward around girls from my HS despite being so fully changed. I seem to think that the people who disliked me last year for being my old self will still hold me in contempt with my new self. Can anyone help me with this?
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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suaveplayer

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well apply ur new attitude to the situation and just go for it. seems like ur almost there
 

lawlzors

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**** I'm in the same situation as you are pretty much.

I started to talk to older HS friends that I haven't had classes with for junior year so it's not completely awkward since you know who they are, but it's long enough that you can start fresh with them. It's gotten me a date already so I'm assuming it's working XD
 

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They may be holding resentment to you. There's only one way to change that though, and I think you know the answer to that. Introduce them to the new you. I\It's that simple

As far as people resisting the changes you've made.... people always hate on those that are trying to improve themselves. Take their reaction as proof that you are changing and improving.

I went through the same things you're now going through. Surprisingly, the kids at my school were very accepting of my changes. Maybe the kids at your school are too and you're just not seeing it. Just get out of your head and go with the flow. Stop overthinking things, everything's gonna be alright

The day you quit worrying about what others think is the day you truly become yourself
 

saturos

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You might shock them by coming on too strongly, so just talk to them and be yourself, but don't be quite so "new" at first. It'll be a little awkward, but they will warm up to you.

On another hand...
I'm in the same boat as you though, and easier said than done, easier said than done....T_T
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Axcell

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Get over that fear that people are going to LOVE the new you! Get out there, start gradually and gradually coming out there... so you don't come out too strong. Think of it like baby steps.

And the best part is yet to come... college! ;)
 

SinJester

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You mean these poor girls are taking hours to put on their makeup and put on they sexy little outfits so you will approach them, and you are too scared!? Poor girls. After all that effort!

Just ask yourself "What would the new me do? What would the old me do?". Try your best to always do what the new you would do. Even if you are scared. Even if you aren't confident. Feel the fear and do it anyway. You MIGHT come accross a little weird at first. Accept that. Keep doing it and eventually it will become comfortable. That's the only way. =D

I know it's not easy, but you seem to be going well, keep up the good work man!
 
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