"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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I'm having problems getting used to the new me

Brighty

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The old me: Junior in HS, awkward, medicore, not really having a passion or goal, just breezing by in life making medicore grades


The new me: Senior in HS, confident, new haircut and fresh clothes (attractive), a successful independent film maker (happened over the summer), grabbing life by the balls and not afraid to shake the waters.

The only problem is that I'm still afraid to talk to girls from my high school. Talking to girls I didn't know when I was awkward as a junior and below goes over fine and I can pull it off awesomely, but its the girls that I've known since then that I'm having trouble conversing to. At parties I can't seem to bring myself to talk to them because I'm afraid I'll come across as a creeper (because I was so awkward last year and the year before, etc) and I feel like they're always judging me.

Are they still holding resentment to me since last year since I was so awkward (and kind of a **** to some of guy friends that hang out with the hot girls)? I feel like they are. It's this feeling that makes me still remain awkward around girls from my HS despite being so fully changed. I seem to think that the people who disliked me last year for being my old self will still hold me in contempt with my new self. Can anyone help me with this?
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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suaveplayer

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well apply ur new attitude to the situation and just go for it. seems like ur almost there
 

lawlzors

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**** I'm in the same situation as you are pretty much.

I started to talk to older HS friends that I haven't had classes with for junior year so it's not completely awkward since you know who they are, but it's long enough that you can start fresh with them. It's gotten me a date already so I'm assuming it's working XD
 

BlakeW5

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They may be holding resentment to you. There's only one way to change that though, and I think you know the answer to that. Introduce them to the new you. I\It's that simple

As far as people resisting the changes you've made.... people always hate on those that are trying to improve themselves. Take their reaction as proof that you are changing and improving.

I went through the same things you're now going through. Surprisingly, the kids at my school were very accepting of my changes. Maybe the kids at your school are too and you're just not seeing it. Just get out of your head and go with the flow. Stop overthinking things, everything's gonna be alright

The day you quit worrying about what others think is the day you truly become yourself
 

saturos

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You might shock them by coming on too strongly, so just talk to them and be yourself, but don't be quite so "new" at first. It'll be a little awkward, but they will warm up to you.

On another hand...
I'm in the same boat as you though, and easier said than done, easier said than done....T_T
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Axcell

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Get over that fear that people are going to LOVE the new you! Get out there, start gradually and gradually coming out there... so you don't come out too strong. Think of it like baby steps.

And the best part is yet to come... college! ;)
 

SinJester

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You mean these poor girls are taking hours to put on their makeup and put on they sexy little outfits so you will approach them, and you are too scared!? Poor girls. After all that effort!

Just ask yourself "What would the new me do? What would the old me do?". Try your best to always do what the new you would do. Even if you are scared. Even if you aren't confident. Feel the fear and do it anyway. You MIGHT come accross a little weird at first. Accept that. Keep doing it and eventually it will become comfortable. That's the only way. =D

I know it's not easy, but you seem to be going well, keep up the good work man!
 
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