"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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I'm having problems getting used to the new me

Brighty

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The old me: Junior in HS, awkward, medicore, not really having a passion or goal, just breezing by in life making medicore grades


The new me: Senior in HS, confident, new haircut and fresh clothes (attractive), a successful independent film maker (happened over the summer), grabbing life by the balls and not afraid to shake the waters.

The only problem is that I'm still afraid to talk to girls from my high school. Talking to girls I didn't know when I was awkward as a junior and below goes over fine and I can pull it off awesomely, but its the girls that I've known since then that I'm having trouble conversing to. At parties I can't seem to bring myself to talk to them because I'm afraid I'll come across as a creeper (because I was so awkward last year and the year before, etc) and I feel like they're always judging me.

Are they still holding resentment to me since last year since I was so awkward (and kind of a **** to some of guy friends that hang out with the hot girls)? I feel like they are. It's this feeling that makes me still remain awkward around girls from my HS despite being so fully changed. I seem to think that the people who disliked me last year for being my old self will still hold me in contempt with my new self. Can anyone help me with this?
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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suaveplayer

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well apply ur new attitude to the situation and just go for it. seems like ur almost there
 

lawlzors

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**** I'm in the same situation as you are pretty much.

I started to talk to older HS friends that I haven't had classes with for junior year so it's not completely awkward since you know who they are, but it's long enough that you can start fresh with them. It's gotten me a date already so I'm assuming it's working XD
 

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They may be holding resentment to you. There's only one way to change that though, and I think you know the answer to that. Introduce them to the new you. I\It's that simple

As far as people resisting the changes you've made.... people always hate on those that are trying to improve themselves. Take their reaction as proof that you are changing and improving.

I went through the same things you're now going through. Surprisingly, the kids at my school were very accepting of my changes. Maybe the kids at your school are too and you're just not seeing it. Just get out of your head and go with the flow. Stop overthinking things, everything's gonna be alright

The day you quit worrying about what others think is the day you truly become yourself
 

saturos

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You might shock them by coming on too strongly, so just talk to them and be yourself, but don't be quite so "new" at first. It'll be a little awkward, but they will warm up to you.

On another hand...
I'm in the same boat as you though, and easier said than done, easier said than done....T_T
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Axcell

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Get over that fear that people are going to LOVE the new you! Get out there, start gradually and gradually coming out there... so you don't come out too strong. Think of it like baby steps.

And the best part is yet to come... college! ;)
 

SinJester

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You mean these poor girls are taking hours to put on their makeup and put on they sexy little outfits so you will approach them, and you are too scared!? Poor girls. After all that effort!

Just ask yourself "What would the new me do? What would the old me do?". Try your best to always do what the new you would do. Even if you are scared. Even if you aren't confident. Feel the fear and do it anyway. You MIGHT come accross a little weird at first. Accept that. Keep doing it and eventually it will become comfortable. That's the only way. =D

I know it's not easy, but you seem to be going well, keep up the good work man!
 
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