"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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I'm gone from showing too much interest to showing none at all!

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silverwex

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Hey all,

Wow its been a long time since i posted here!

Anyway, i have a slight problem - since ive read lots and lots of posts on this site it has changed my preception of women in general.

My problem is that if i even think about showing interest in a girl ive met i say to myself 'No thats AFC. dont show interest - its weak!'. I know u must show interest to get places but it just feels afc to try it on with a girl now coz my fukin subconcious thinks its not alpha!

Anyone else experience this? And how do i strike the right balance?

Cheers.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Thats sounds correct, if I may pontificate that whole "don't be aloof be indifferent" advice.

Aloof: Closed off from the world, anti-social, when taken to far. Aloof is usually not a good trait to have.

Indifferent: You See a 2 and a 10 and you treat both of them the same. You don't bow down, supplicate or compliment, but you do not give a cold shoulder or push them away when they seek you socially.

The best way to show interest is to talk about her. It aviods stupid compliments and you learn more about her which is usefull later of course.

Ask about her hobbies, what she does and even her day. You don't have to really listen but just seem like it, because trust me a lot of it is boring anyway.

-Grey Fox
 
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TRUST ME

If the rapport is there..........IGNORE them and they will come
 
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you can show intrest, but just dont over do it, and do not chase around after her do not be avalible etc. you must know this stuff beter then i do. basicly you can show intrest with out being AFC becuase an AFC would go to far and say i love you and chase her 24/7 but you, the DJ will subtly show her you like her and you will show her attention only osmetimes and not always be avalible and do not let ehr walk all over you im sure you get the picture now

hope iv been a help
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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