LearningSlowly
Master Don Juan
Yeaahhhh! I like that. Be nice, almost thank them for what they did, because if they hadn't I wouldn't be me. Their own anger reflects onto themselves, instead of leaking onto me.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
i got the same thing going lol. would you ever attempt to kiss close a girl you know has a bf?LearningSlowly said:YES! YES! WOOOOO!! Grace messaged me back and I killed it! LETS GO!!!! Posting the whole conversation.
Me: Hi! Youre cute, lets hang out? (on saturday)
Her: If I was single I would say yes, but I have a boyfriend (today, Tuesday)
Me: Oh yeah all girls worth having have boyfriends, I dont mind.
Me: Im gonna get my first date someday, it'll happen
Her: you're great, girls would be lucky to be with you
Me: Aw! That was nice. Putting that one in my "Reasons to date Grace [last]" list.
Her: hahaha, for real though. I glad we met
Me: Look at you, acting like its over!
Me: Get your head in the game
Her: haha, we'll deff see each other again. are you going to suzi's for new years?
Me: Nah my friend maddie is throwing something.
Her: oh okay, well some other party then
Me: Hows this though? I'll come down that way the next day, we'll have lunch. Then you get to tell me all about how you have a boyfriend in person (sent within a few seconds of the last 2)
Her: Wish I could but I can't, I'm not sure one on one is the best idea haha (7 minutes later)
Me: What??? I dont even know where your head is at. I'm completely on friend zone mode right now.
Me: Do I need to find myself a girlfriend so that youre allowed to see me?
Her: haha, no, I'm in a healthy relationship without any jealousy issues, so it actually would be fine for us to hang out
Me: Awesome lunch, jan 1
Me: track my number down, ill see you then
Her: sounds great!
YEAHHHHH. Got the date, even though she had a boyfriend, maintained sexuality. I'm a boss, this'll be good.
Letter shift. My bad. Fvck it, here. http://www.erowid.org/chemicals/mdma/mdma.shtmlJack Wealthy said:Number shift cipher? I'm lost.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.