"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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I'm going on my first date! Need Advice

Buck Naked

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Im 21 yrs old, going on my first date (How pitiful)!! Im going to go Tubing this Saturday with a 27 yr old i met on V-Day. We got along great, so im not worried about that. My only worries are about paying, and after tubing. It costs $12 for one person. If I pay for both of us, no biggie, but should i assume i'm paying? The way we got along at the bar i should be going to her place afterwards. Should i assume nookie, or see how the date is going?
I basically need some words of wisdom for a guy on his 1st date.

~JD~
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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You ALWAYS pay for the first date.

I've been on alot of dates and I'm 17 :). NEVER I repeat NEVER assume nookie on the first date unless she brings it up or asks you to go to her place.

Always try to get a kiss in on the first date. Other than that...just have fun with her.
 

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Thanks for the tips Mikel
 
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You expect sex after a $12 tubing event? Cheap prostitute! :D

Don't expect anything, just enjoy yourselves and look for her interest level and and make moves and look forward to a second function. Don't be too anxious and look desperate for a second date. Show interest in her, but be cool and not overbearing.

Don't tell her this is your first date. If she asks, tell her you had a few short term relationships and so forth!!

21 y/o ? You got to start sometime, You are a dj now - no turning back :cool: Leave the past behind and work on your future.
 

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you don't have to pay for her. i've been on plenty of first dates where the girl will offer to pay. if your game is tight you can let her pay.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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