Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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I'm going on my first date! Need Advice

Buck Naked

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Im 21 yrs old, going on my first date (How pitiful)!! Im going to go Tubing this Saturday with a 27 yr old i met on V-Day. We got along great, so im not worried about that. My only worries are about paying, and after tubing. It costs $12 for one person. If I pay for both of us, no biggie, but should i assume i'm paying? The way we got along at the bar i should be going to her place afterwards. Should i assume nookie, or see how the date is going?
I basically need some words of wisdom for a guy on his 1st date.

~JD~
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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You ALWAYS pay for the first date.

I've been on alot of dates and I'm 17 :). NEVER I repeat NEVER assume nookie on the first date unless she brings it up or asks you to go to her place.

Always try to get a kiss in on the first date. Other than that...just have fun with her.
 

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Thanks for the tips Mikel
 
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You expect sex after a $12 tubing event? Cheap prostitute! :D

Don't expect anything, just enjoy yourselves and look for her interest level and and make moves and look forward to a second function. Don't be too anxious and look desperate for a second date. Show interest in her, but be cool and not overbearing.

Don't tell her this is your first date. If she asks, tell her you had a few short term relationships and so forth!!

21 y/o ? You got to start sometime, You are a dj now - no turning back :cool: Leave the past behind and work on your future.
 

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you don't have to pay for her. i've been on plenty of first dates where the girl will offer to pay. if your game is tight you can let her pay.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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