"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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I'm Glad I Finally Got Rid Of Her, But...

soulforge

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2 weeks on and i,m feeling alot more confident about dumping this chick who i was seeing for 4 months... but these 4 months was very intense!!


Anyhow i am happy to move on and meet other chicks who are not rude and disrespectful like she was...

My only regret is... when i dumped her, i gave her some explanations of why it was over...

Told her, that her behaviour was out of order, told her that she kept escalating problems, rather than trying to resolve them.. and she blamed me for everything!

Finaly i told her, that she wasn't the right girl for me, whom i want a relationship with... and that it is over...

Now i feel like a fukin moron.. i wish i had just kept it simple and gave her as little information as possible, and told her it was over..

I guess i cant turn back the time now... the result is still the same, i ended it with her!!


I have 2 dates lined up, time to bang some new chicks...
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Why ??,, its all about what would bring peace to you. whatever that would make you feel better... as you said the result is the same.
 

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Roni_88 said:
Why ??,, its all about what would bring peace to you. whatever that would make you feel better... as you said the result is the same.


Thats true my friend, i just didn't want to come across as throwing blame.. or whinging!

Man i,m glad it happened now, years down the line, i would have been in a world of fuking pain..
 

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Don't feel you have to always follow the DJ path of just giving no explanation and disappearing. While that might make her hamster spin, all it really does for you is boost your ego. Sometimes giving an explanation serves to give you peace of mind. In the end the result is a break up, so don't feel you broke some DJ golden rule, you ended it your way and now it's over. I applaud your ability to identify disrespect and take desisive action, that is the hallmark of DJ more than anything.
 

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soulforge said:
Anyhow i am happy to move on and meet other chicks who are not rude and disrespectful like she was...

My only regret is... when i dumped her, i gave her some explanations of why it was over...

Told her, that her behaviour was out of order, told her that she kept escalating problems, rather than trying to resolve them.. and she blamed me for everything!

Finaly i told her, that she wasn't the right girl for me, whom i want a relationship with... and that it is over...

Now i feel like a fukin moron.. i wish i had just kept it simple and gave her as little information as possible, and told her it was over..
I don't see nothing wrong with saying that. Why do you have regrets? You told her how it was and how you didn't like her behavior. Dumping her is what you did and you gave your reasons why. I don't see nothing wrong with being forceful making your words known. Being a fool would be to stay not telling her that and not dumping her.


soulforge said:
I guess i cant turn back the time now... the result is still the same, i ended it with her!!

I have 2 dates lined up, time to bang some new chicks...

It is good you ended it with her. Don't look back and have banging the new chicks.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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4 months is nothing man dont whine. Get drunk go out whatever. Its always very hard to end something like that when there was no blatant cheating as a reason. But 4 months aint ****, youll be k in a month.
 

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Maybe she'll treat the next guy a little better.
 

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BrainDamage92 said:
4 months is nothing man dont whine. Get drunk go out whatever. Its always very hard to end something like that when there was no blatant cheating as a reason. But 4 months aint ****, youll be k in a month.

I agree 4 months is not alot and i will get over it quickly.. but those 4 months was pretty intense.. alot of girlfriend and boyfriend shiit we did...


like you said, no blatant cheating... but there was red flags.. she knew and associated with many many dudes.. also she knew one or two drug dealers..

Normaly i couldn't give a rats ass about a 4month thing.. but foolishly i thought this chick might be different..

Fuk it.. life goes on...
 
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